first off: shit yeah, i'm open to suggestions, or at least suggestions that aren't something along the lines of 'you're a shit person and need to find a different hobby' for daring to commit the cardinal sin of dropping a couple tags. anyway. yeah, like i said, i think there's a different standard for game tags vs. meme tags (really, there has to be) and it eludes me why anyone would want to be in a game if they know they've got any problems with flakiness. having spent the past three years mostly getting my cr fix from memes and psls, they're really not all that bad and i've met some great players in them. they don't provide quite the cohesion a game does, but idg the all-important 'must be in a game!' drive from, say, someone like brotherhoodeirk who knows on some level they've got problems with measuring up. it's not just men that have to know their limitations, you know?
thinking about it, i think a big part of my problem personally is that i have this almost compulsive need to give my rp partners back whatever they give me. like, no lie, how i actually tag back is to c/p the last response i get, paste it in notepad, then write a reply back that's of as close to an exact comparative length as i can imagine. sometimes this works really great and sometimes it... well, doesn't
i'm actually really glad you sounded off here because i've long been of the mindset that a shitty tagback is just a bad, if not worse, than no tag at all. no one wants to give five paragraphs of taggery and then get two or three fucking sentences. but if the type a players like you really would rather get any tag back, even a poor one of that standard, than no tag at all, i suppose that is definitely something to keep in mind in the future. also, to anyone else reading this thread, feel free to chime in with your thoughts on that, because i really would like to know now if that's a popular attitude, that even shitty tags back are better than none, or if it's better to drop a scene if one or the other people in it is so drained that they can't even manage a full paragraph
i think the problem you're having here is equating size to quality. if someone gives you a five paragraph tag, honestly? as long as you respond to the important parts, it's not a shitty tag. it's the ones that reply to a large tag with 'oh' [blinks] and then gives the other party nothing to go on that classify as a shitty tag. a shitty tag is just a bare-bones response with nothing to go off of. if you reply in a way that your partner can respond back without having to drag the thread along all on their own, i don't really think of that as a shitty tag.
tag lengths vary. in the course of at thread, prose OR brackets, i could have a reply be four paragraphs, then two, then three, then half of one, then a bunch of short little one-two liners, then a sudden five paragraph blurb. that's just the natural ebb and flow of a conversation. you're not always going to give back the exact word count to a conversation partner as they give you, nor are they going to do that same.
i think if you can work on looking past that 'must give back what i get' sort of feeling, you might find that the idea of tagging for a while doesn't seem like such a mountain. i hope that helps you and i hope you find a way that makes it more fun for you and helps you enjoy your playing. maybe if you can get to that point where you're not so concerned about tag length as much as what's actually IN the tag, you might feel up to joining a game yourself.
as long as you're not just giving me dead end tags, idgaf whether everything you write is a timeless masterwork or not. just play with me. that's why we're here.
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Re: ayrt
(Anonymous) 2015-03-26 04:46 am (UTC)(link)thinking about it, i think a big part of my problem personally is that i have this almost compulsive need to give my rp partners back whatever they give me. like, no lie, how i actually tag back is to c/p the last response i get, paste it in notepad, then write a reply back that's of as close to an exact comparative length as i can imagine. sometimes this works really great and sometimes it... well, doesn't
i'm actually really glad you sounded off here because i've long been of the mindset that a shitty tagback is just a bad, if not worse, than no tag at all. no one wants to give five paragraphs of taggery and then get two or three fucking sentences. but if the type a players like you really would rather get any tag back, even a poor one of that standard, than no tag at all, i suppose that is definitely something to keep in mind in the future. also, to anyone else reading this thread, feel free to chime in with your thoughts on that, because i really would like to know now if that's a popular attitude, that even shitty tags back are better than none, or if it's better to drop a scene if one or the other people in it is so drained that they can't even manage a full paragraph
ayrt
tag lengths vary. in the course of at thread, prose OR brackets, i could have a reply be four paragraphs, then two, then three, then half of one, then a bunch of short little one-two liners, then a sudden five paragraph blurb. that's just the natural ebb and flow of a conversation. you're not always going to give back the exact word count to a conversation partner as they give you, nor are they going to do that same.
i think if you can work on looking past that 'must give back what i get' sort of feeling, you might find that the idea of tagging for a while doesn't seem like such a mountain. i hope that helps you and i hope you find a way that makes it more fun for you and helps you enjoy your playing. maybe if you can get to that point where you're not so concerned about tag length as much as what's actually IN the tag, you might feel up to joining a game yourself.
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