That's kind of where I am. I try to play only characters who are at least some kind of hard-ass and not inclined to be endlessly soppy when people give them no reason to give a fuck about their personal problems.

But are decent enough human beings that if someone IS a friend they care/can care. Yeah, yeah, it's some degree of OOC manipulation of my character, but it saves me nasty, annoying, soul-sucking "CR" which gets me NOTHING in return but a broken, exhausted, used up character and pisses me off.

And likewise, I get some buttmad reactions but I honestly don't care. If you can't treat my character are more than a prop for your character's drama, I don't want to play with you OR care about your opinion.