it's been mentioned before in this thread and the one linked: it's a matter of respecting the other person without dragging them around in the mud with him. it's not a light offense like "he was PA to me" or "he's whiny" it's something that could literally damage another person because of it

i mean...... i understand the frustration of not having deets for this kind of thing and its pointless to come to wankgate bc of it but he is legit an awful human being and it's not just something you can put out there because of the nature of it