i don't find anal sexy either but i end up writing it because i like m/m and most of the people i've played with who like m/m seem to loooove writing dicks in butts and expect every m/m smut thread to have anal

i hardly ever find people who want to write m/m scenes where the characters get each other off just from oral or handjobs or frot instead of having that be foreplay for the inevitable buttsex

it makes me sad that frot especially is so overlooked when i think it's super hot