as someone who's been dropped by her, it's very sudden and usually not overt either so by the time you figure out she dropped you like a hot potato, you're already over it
The only time it is overt is if you drop her first. I was feeling isolated and left out and it was doing terrible shit to my mental health, so I tried to distance myself from all that for a little while and when I tried to come back with a healthier mindset, I got the door slammed in my face.
It was partially my own fault for not explaining the situation better, but you can never feel comfortable telling her flat out you're feeling left out, because she'll just make fun of you behind your back for being needy.
yeah, she dropped me pretty hard after an argument she started with me, and hasn't really spoken to me since. i come into a plurk conversation or something and suddenly she's either nowhere to be found or she ignores the hell out of me.
my best friend is one of her current clique, i dread the day that goes south, 'cause they're pretty close. :/
She does that to you too, anon? I had a falling out with her ages ago and she still ignores me like a plague in the plurks of mutual friends.
I feel for your friend. :c Are they really emotionally invested in the friendship? Because being one of Jae's closet biffles is pretty great when she's paying attention, but if you're overly attached to her, it stings like a bitch when she leaves you and I wouldn't wish those feelings on anyone.
oh my god honestly, until this thread, I thought I was the ONLY ONE she had done that to, and it's just... so alienating sometimes. Especially given my bff's involvement. :/
Yeah, they're really close, and I'm hoping desperately it goes differently for them even though it makes things awkward for me because I don't want her to hurt. But at the same time, I kinda feel like I wish it would happen sooner rather than later? Like... the sooner it happens, the less it'll sting, hopefully.
Anon, you might as well be me. It's incredibly awkward because I try to be respectful of their friendship with Jae (and Jae) for them and I don't see it returned at all.
yeah, exactly, I've even tried to reach out to her and say "I am cool with you, no hard feelings" because honestly, it was a few years ago and it might still sting a bit if I think hard about it, but it was another time in my life. Aaaaand she just continues to pretend I don't exist. :/
It's nice to know I'm not alone, though. I had honestly thought it was just me.
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(Anonymous) 2013-04-08 03:51 pm (UTC)(link)she stops talking to you, end of story
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(Anonymous) 2013-04-08 05:53 pm (UTC)(link)It was partially my own fault for not explaining the situation better, but you can never feel comfortable telling her flat out you're feeling left out, because she'll just make fun of you behind your back for being needy.
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(Anonymous) 2013-04-10 11:46 pm (UTC)(link)my best friend is one of her current clique, i dread the day that goes south, 'cause they're pretty close. :/
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(Anonymous) 2013-04-11 03:03 am (UTC)(link)I feel for your friend. :c Are they really emotionally invested in the friendship? Because being one of Jae's closet biffles is pretty great when she's paying attention, but if you're overly attached to her, it stings like a bitch when she leaves you and I wouldn't wish those feelings on anyone.
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(Anonymous) 2013-04-12 09:40 pm (UTC)(link)Yeah, they're really close, and I'm hoping desperately it goes differently for them even though it makes things awkward for me because I don't want her to hurt. But at the same time, I kinda feel like I wish it would happen sooner rather than later? Like... the sooner it happens, the less it'll sting, hopefully.
/sigh
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(Anonymous) 2013-04-12 06:41 pm (UTC)(link)the dda above
(Anonymous) 2013-04-12 09:42 pm (UTC)(link)It's nice to know I'm not alone, though. I had honestly thought it was just me.