(Anonymous) 2013-04-13 10:44 pm (UTC)(link)
Start asking your RP partners! I always end up writing a bunch of anal sex, too, and I do enjoy writing it, but I really really love oral and frot and I never get to play them out! But I know that is, in part, my own fault, because I anal sex is so overwhelmingly common in m/m RP as THE ONLY SMUT THAT MATTERS that I just automatically default to it when playing and don't bother asking if my partner would like to do something else.

Start asking, and I'll start asking too, and we can maybe be the change we want to see!