as a formerly prospective player, this was my experience as well. i read everything over and checked the faq when i was considering applying and the level of hostility and disdain for reasonable and rational questions almost knocked me over. every reply seemed actively resentful. reasonable queries were met with sarcasm and unhelpful answers and attempts to clarify were scorned.

i checked in with a couple of players who validated that it got no better when accepted. mods were just as hateful if not more so. that's what made me decide it's not for me. sometimes i still consider applying then i smack myself on the head and remind myself i'm not going to put up with that shit.