honestly? this is just my experience, but how bad an npc player's experience with wol rpers is depends highly on how much special attention their character gives the wol in canon. aymeric and haurchefant are expected to drop everything and be the wol's perfect elf boyfriend without the wol player considering ways to explore their personal demons or motivations outside of them. who cares if aymeric was tortured by his father or that haurchefant has a terrifyingly violent side to him, they need to cuddle the wol right now! g'raha isn't allowed to to do anything more interesting than gush over the wol, like adventuring with them like he's always dreamed of and seeing what the world has to offer. after all, that might require the wol player to actually be creative. on the villainfucker side, zenos and emet also suffer, and whether they're expected to ravish the wol or be domesticated by them depends entirely on whether or not the wol player has a noncon kink. this is all because these different npc/wol dynamics attract pushy assholes who think they can get away with anything and the npc player has to just take it because their character is supposed to adore their self-insert.

meanwhile, i used to play a couple other npcs alongside one of the wol boyfriends listed above, and my experience rping them was much more pleasant. sure, i had to deal with a one or two weirdos here and there, but just the fact that these characters weren't flanderized by fandom to have their lips surgically attached to the wol's ass cheek filtered out the worst of the worst. but that's just my experience, ymmv and all that.