I play one of the "boyfriend" npcs and it fucking sucks bc of everything you just said. I makes me feel like I'm some oc players cumrag every time they tag me and I don't feel like doing exactly what they want. Ofc I drop those tags, but it happens every time and it's "bad faith" to not tag castmates in games so I don't feel like I can opt out of them.

Playing other NPCs is a little better but I've definitely had weirdo WoLs act this way with my girls too and it also sucks.