That's what makes it a struggle, anon. The WoL is for all intents and purposes an OC that anyone can play however they want and that's super daunting to tag with a character that has a relationship with that OC in canon. WoLs expect you to read their minds and do what they want which is as far as I know a huge no no in DWRP and yet people "have" to let the WoL OC be the main character who dictates how the story went and how your character was supposed to feel about it. Apping into those games not wanting to tag them is 100% reasonable to me, but the WoL+their friend group will throw a shitfit if you don't. It's not the same and not nearly as simple as "you shouldn't app if you don't plan on tagging the main character."