i can understand that, and it does suck when that happens because there's really nothing you can do. having a child can turn someone into a completely different person that is no longer your friend, and i won't lie that i've never dropped friendships myself over that. it's just their belief that when anyone has a child they completely stagnate and are unable to grow as a person.

but friendships are one thing. this person is talking about their own sibling and how unhappy they are they're starting a family because in their words they are going to "lose" them for twenty years and won't get them back until then.