ngl as someone who has a few friends who have kids, has family who have kids, and acquaintances who have kids... Wanting to make sure your baby grows up healthy is not the same as not valuing your friendships, and the fact that you have to make it one or the other feels more like you only value the friendship if it's about you.

People don't realize how hard it is to raise a kid, and honestly every time I meet with my friends who have kids, all I want to do is help them so they can rest during the time we're hanging out. I play with the kid and watch over them so their parents can get some food and breathe a little. I don't even like kids, but I like my friends, and so I help them out, and we can talk about fandoms and life updates normally without acting like their child is a hindrance to that.