da. that whole thing wasn't very long ago, but the conclusion seemed to be that the jinx had a grudgewanker who purposefully gave the most uncharitable interpretation of events possible

https://wankgate.dreamwidth.org/64388.html?thread=255976324

imo it's also not really wanky to like a ship so much that you want to find that same dynamic again, but i guess it depends on how pushy the player was