People who treat it like a terrible sin when I'm more emotionally invested in one game than another. SPOILERS: IT HAPPENS. If I've been in a game for two years and the game is stagnating, then no, I am not going to be as invested in it as I am the game that's moving a lot faster and giving more opportunities to play.
If I'm still active in the other game and not squatting and not flat-out ignoring you for my new darling, you have nothing to bitch about.
Apply this to threads and certain players too. People have preferences, and they will not always line up. It doesn't mean I don't enjoy the thread we're doing together or that I don't enjoy playing with you in general, but yes there are going to be other threads I'm more excited about sometimes and will be tagging back a little faster, or certain people I will always find the extra time to play with even when I am otherwise very busy.
I don't prioritize everyone I RP with equally. Anyone who pretends they do is full of shit and is a victim of those geek social fallacies. As soon as you start talking about having an RP partner, you've already set a hierarchy. THIS IS NOT BECAUSE I SECRETLY HATE YOU. THIS IS JUST HOW MOST PEOPLE HANDLE SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS. Nobody treats everyone as their absolute best BFF in real life even if they are friends and enjoy hanging out together; it is the same thing with this. As long as I'm not being a grossly neglectful douche, you need to suck it up and deal and stop taking it as a personal slight that I tagged person A twice in an hour and you only once.
Seriously. This is me right down to the letter. I used to be AWFUL about being jealous when someone I respected spent more time RP-ing with another person than they did with me (although in my defense, they also shut me out a lot, so they might well HAVE been the kind of person who was purposefully ignoring me), but I got over it and I'm much happier for it. Now that kind of behavior embarrasses the hell out of me.
Me too. I think it's a normal part of adjusting to RP for a lot of people and pretty common in the first few months. But it helps to get over it as quickly as possible.
It used to bother me when someone would ask me to block out time to really go back and forth on a thread, and I would do it and they would blow off the scheduled time to thread with someone else, but I solved this by not scheduling time like that anymore, getting more used to RP and not caring nearly as much if they did this, and also meeting people who were more chill about RP to begin with!
i recently had an argument with another player about a tag i gave and then later dropped because of personal preferences. i have people that i tag specifically and people that i don't tag often enough. it's just a thing and i'm so glad that someone else feels the same way
Humans are social animals and we instinctively function with hierarchy! My 'favorites'/the importance order of my list will shift based on what I feel like RPing, who I feel most comfortable with at the time, etc. Just because you're further down the totem pole doesn't mean I hate you, it just means that you get to wait your turn.
There is nothing wrong with a totem pole. And nothing knocks you down to the bottom of it faster than passive aggressive begging to be the center of my universe.
holy shit, this. i remember one of my good friends once blamed a game i used to play in for the declining activity of her castmates in her main game on the sole basis that most of her castmates considered my game their main game instead of her game. i can understand that you love your main game and your castmates, and i can also understand that you would like said castmates to be more active, but they're allowed to have different preferences in games.
she's long since gotten over it now, thankfully, but damn.
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Re: GAME PET PEEVES
(Anonymous) 2012-10-12 07:02 pm (UTC)(link)If I'm still active in the other game and not squatting and not flat-out ignoring you for my new darling, you have nothing to bitch about.
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(Anonymous) 2012-10-12 07:25 pm (UTC)(link)I don't prioritize everyone I RP with equally. Anyone who pretends they do is full of shit and is a victim of those geek social fallacies. As soon as you start talking about having an RP partner, you've already set a hierarchy. THIS IS NOT BECAUSE I SECRETLY HATE YOU. THIS IS JUST HOW MOST PEOPLE HANDLE SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS. Nobody treats everyone as their absolute best BFF in real life even if they are friends and enjoy hanging out together; it is the same thing with this. As long as I'm not being a grossly neglectful douche, you need to suck it up and deal and stop taking it as a personal slight that I tagged person A twice in an hour and you only once.
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(Anonymous) 2012-10-12 07:56 pm (UTC)(link)sa
(Anonymous) 2012-10-12 07:58 pm (UTC)(link)Seriously. This is me right down to the letter. I used to be AWFUL about being jealous when someone I respected spent more time RP-ing with another person than they did with me (although in my defense, they also shut me out a lot, so they might well HAVE been the kind of person who was purposefully ignoring me), but I got over it and I'm much happier for it. Now that kind of behavior embarrasses the hell out of me.
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(Anonymous) 2012-10-13 03:05 am (UTC)(link)It used to bother me when someone would ask me to block out time to really go back and forth on a thread, and I would do it and they would blow off the scheduled time to thread with someone else, but I solved this by not scheduling time like that anymore, getting more used to RP and not caring nearly as much if they did this, and also meeting people who were more chill about RP to begin with!
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(Anonymous) 2012-10-12 10:19 pm (UTC)(link)+1 YES THIS
(Anonymous) 2012-10-12 11:14 pm (UTC)(link)There is nothing wrong with a totem pole. And nothing knocks you down to the bottom of it faster than passive aggressive begging to be the center of my universe.
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(Anonymous) 2012-10-14 01:54 am (UTC)(link)she's long since gotten over it now, thankfully, but damn.