trust me, if ken came back one day and said he was suddenly, i dunno barbie or whatever, no one would call him that. no one would call him a her any more than anyone's going to call kevin a her

saying we 'respect his pronouns' is really misleading, it implies he's changed them when as far as we know he hasn't

and kevin's been way, WAY more that just 'vaguely creepy and pushy about f/f'

minimizing his actions isn't helping your case any more than the tumblrinas shrieking about respecting his honor was

just tell him to leave. seriously. there is nothing left for him here