and the people that don't shouldn't just be okay with adding randos that saw them in a mutual's plurk without a head's up. i don't have my plurk added on the game's taken list. i specify whenever i list it that i prefer for cr to add me only, not to just add because you're joining a game. i have 'give me a head's up' in my profile. i am being proactive. not my fault some people choose to ignore everything and just send an add, then get butthurt when i don't add them.