luckily she didn't steal from me- but the accusations of theft were to her whole plurklist.
including people we had games in common with.
oh and yeah, she complained about me being "a complete slob" when there was mold growing on left-out food when i got there.
she was really mentally in a terrible place and i still actually feel bad for her and about some of the stuff I did inadvertently, but none of it excused the level of assholery she and her non-mentally-ill cohort pulled with me.
luckily, as far as i know they're both long gone from dwrp, or at least in circles i'll never cross, so i just chalk it up to a lesson learned, expensively since this was pre-airb&b days.
i seriously seriously mean it about the warning about anyone who's constantly posting about how lonely they are and just want friends omg how do i make friends in a huge city full of book clubs and knitting circles and trivia nights and board game cafes and libraries offering free courses
"omg i have no friends offline!" someone suggests looking for other anime fans or hanging out in the manga section at the library. "BUT MY SOCIAL ANXIETY!!!!!!!!!11 ;w;"
no, honey, you have a toxic personality and i regret ever comforting you on plurk and wasting my time researching solutions to your problems.
she had significantly worse problems than anxiety. like I'm still not sure if she actively decided to make up stories of me being a kleptomaniac to make herself look victim-y or if she's seriously delusional enough she thinks she saw me steal shit.
so she's either a manipulative piece of garbage, or even crazier than originally thought.
I'm still pretty sure her accomplice (who does not have the potential non-corpus-mentis excuse here) lives in my city and it's probably only a matter of time before I have some cringingly awkward run-in at a con.
where I will just smile sweetly and let my (actual! IRL! that I can keep for more than a week!) friends give her the stink eye.
the biggest upside/amusement factor for me here is that of the of the IRL friends i tell the whole story to, at least five of them are freelance colleagues of the accomplice who are of the "warn each other about dangerous people" variety of convention pro.
so she can be super-psyched to know that any time she gets an artist's alley table at a con after that incident, there's a p. good chance the people next to her know how shitty she is as a person.
it wasn't really me trying to get justice or revenge, i was just upset and hurt and went to my friends for emotional support.
one of them (who is not a dwrper, just a friend i've had for nearly 20 years) went pretty public with their anger about it too. it was strangely heartwarming to see how many people got angry for me when i wasn't capable of it yet.
but yeah lol now it's total schadenfreude. she was a class a bitch to me when she knew who i was friends with, knowing that convention AA artists are gossipy af. any tarnish on her reputation or career is entirely her own doing. and that's why it's beautiful.
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(Anonymous) 2018-10-12 03:34 pm (UTC)(link)including people we had games in common with.
oh and yeah, she complained about me being "a complete slob" when there was mold growing on left-out food when i got there.
she was really mentally in a terrible place and i still actually feel bad for her and about some of the stuff I did inadvertently, but none of it excused the level of assholery she and her non-mentally-ill cohort pulled with me.
luckily, as far as i know they're both long gone from dwrp, or at least in circles i'll never cross, so i just chalk it up to a lesson learned, expensively since this was pre-airb&b days.
i seriously seriously mean it about the warning about anyone who's constantly posting about how lonely they are and just want friends omg how do i make friends in a huge city full of book clubs and knitting circles and trivia nights and board game cafes and libraries offering free courses
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(Anonymous) 2018-10-12 04:19 pm (UTC)(link)"omg i have no friends offline!" someone suggests looking for other anime fans or hanging out in the manga section at the library. "BUT MY SOCIAL ANXIETY!!!!!!!!!11 ;w;"
no, honey, you have a toxic personality and i regret ever comforting you on plurk and wasting my time researching solutions to your problems.
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(Anonymous) 2018-10-13 03:55 am (UTC)(link)she had significantly worse problems than anxiety. like I'm still not sure if she actively decided to make up stories of me being a kleptomaniac to make herself look victim-y or if she's seriously delusional enough she thinks she saw me steal shit.
so she's either a manipulative piece of garbage, or even crazier than originally thought.
I'm still pretty sure her accomplice (who does not have the potential non-corpus-mentis excuse here) lives in my city and it's probably only a matter of time before I have some cringingly awkward run-in at a con.
where I will just smile sweetly and let my (actual! IRL! that I can keep for more than a week!) friends give her the stink eye.
the biggest upside/amusement factor for me here is that of the of the IRL friends i tell the whole story to, at least five of them are freelance colleagues of the accomplice who are of the "warn each other about dangerous people" variety of convention pro.
so she can be super-psyched to know that any time she gets an artist's alley table at a con after that incident, there's a p. good chance the people next to her know how shitty she is as a person.
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(Anonymous) 2018-10-13 05:28 am (UTC)(link)one of them (who is not a dwrper, just a friend i've had for nearly 20 years) went pretty public with their anger about it too. it was strangely heartwarming to see how many people got angry for me when i wasn't capable of it yet.
but yeah lol now it's total schadenfreude. she was a class a bitch to me when she knew who i was friends with, knowing that convention AA artists are gossipy af. any tarnish on her reputation or career is entirely her own doing. and that's why it's beautiful.