ayrt

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 12:40 am (UTC)(link)
Aww anon that's so nice 🥺 maybe... Do u like big anime dudes.

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 12:42 am (UTC)(link)
i don't need to take any kind of backtalk about insertions from you

ayrt

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 12:43 am (UTC)(link)
Another character I play is pretty femme and almost always the bottom in his biggest fandom ship but I'd love to play him as the top once or twice!! I wonder if the players of the other guy would be into that though

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 12:43 am (UTC)(link)
maybe if you gave yourself some insertion you'd be more fun

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 12:47 am (UTC)(link)
Guys I'm trying to get my guy some insertion but everyone wants him to top 😭😭

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 12:49 am (UTC)(link)
I am stag & doe anon and yes, rural white Canadian. I've noticed less rural but still working/middle class people do the same thing but call them Jack & Jill parties. I have known non-white Canadians to have these parties too.

People With Money seem to eschew them, but if you don't have a need to have some financial padding for your wedding, might as well spend less time planning events.

Since someone mentioned commissions, I don't see this as too different from a digital stag and doe. Mentioning the goalpost and getting too "pleasepleaseplease"y might have been missteps, but as someone who's worked in the wedding-industrial complex in a few places, that's the mid-range some people will spend on just the dress.

3k for a whole wedding is a pile of beans in this industry and very well COULD just be a courthouse wedding (which do have registration fees last I checked) with some added funds for travel costs to get a few important people to the ceremony, maybe some nice clothes to wear and a picnic-style dinner for a handful of guests at a low-cost outdoor venue. I can't think of much beyond that you COULD get for that price tag unless you have relatives with a huge backyard willing to host it.

The world really is shit right now, and I can't fault someone for wanting to have at least one tiny not-shit thing, even if they need to ask for help and do that asking badly.

And again, even amateur-level commissions is doing *something.*

+1

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 12:52 am (UTC)(link)

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(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 12:55 am (UTC)(link)
only partially on topic but i live in the GTA and i can confirm that stag and doe parties are reasonably common where i am, so it's not solely rural canada that does them

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:00 am (UTC)(link)
this is so dramatic for some chronic e-begging losers who want internet strangers to pay for their party

do you watch tlc bridal shows and cry

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(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:02 am (UTC)(link)
some anon: someone begging for donations on plurk for a wedding
ayrt and a few others: some people ask friends to help with their wedding where I'm from
you: THIS IS SO DRAMATIC

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:05 am (UTC)(link)
except it was an essay

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(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:09 am (UTC)(link)
the comment's not even dramatic? it's just giving a lot of context and possible explanations.

i get the comment's long, anon, but if you're not gonna bother reading it you shouldn't pretend you know what it said.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:10 am (UTC)(link)
the beggars in question have a track record of begging for money with little in the way of proof that the commissions wind up happening at all

i don't disagree with a lot of what you're saying, but in this particular case, i think you're assuming way too much good faith on their part

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(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:13 am (UTC)(link)
your friends are only pretending they like you

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(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:14 am (UTC)(link)
and there's the goalpost shift.

you posted about what they were doing and how they were doing it, as if that was the thing that was beyond the pale and worth wanking over. when people corrected you, now it's about who's doing it and that everything else shouldn't matter because of the who.

which just goes to show you serial stalk people you clearly don't like on social media and plurk to have ammo to complain about them with because your life is that fucking boring. pick up a book, anon. these people aren't the villains to your hero.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:15 am (UTC)(link)
People had wartime weddings during every war in history.

People got married when the polio vaccine was still in the works. They got married when typhoid and cholera and TB were everyday realities. Hell, I bet there were even weddings during the Black Plague.

A small, probably outdoor wedding with a price tag under 5k is entirely reasonable in a world where movie theatres and gyms are still open amidst a pandemic. If you don't think the art the person is selling is any good, no one's making you buy it or do anything else to fund the wedding.

You're starting to sound like the fiancée's jilted ex who's desperate for the wedding not to happen in a 90s romcom.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:15 am (UTC)(link)
are you bothered no one would want to pay for your party

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:15 am (UTC)(link)
haha idiot i don't have friends

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(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:18 am (UTC)(link)
The original plurk peeve didn't mention who or anything about the people doing it either. So people are just posting their opinions on either side. Not everyone has plurk and not everyone knows the people that are being talked about but ayrt is being vitriolic for no reason

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:18 am (UTC)(link)
you? unpopular and poorly socialized?

never could have guessed

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:19 am (UTC)(link)
this is a doozy fanfic of a comment and it's funny other defensive weddiningnons think you aren't being dramatic

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(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:20 am (UTC)(link)
uh huh. bringing it up at all with the actual deets of it (number/goal range) means they knew who they were posting about, they were just attempting poorly to be vague. don't cover for them.

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(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:21 am (UTC)(link)
there's more than one anon trolling, i'm not leaving all these comments and i am trolling

ayrt

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:39 am (UTC)(link)
yeah, sorry, my bad for assuming you might take some actual real world context in mind and reconsider your freak hissyfit over some rando doing something relatively normal and harmless.

this wasn't wankworthy and was weird and grudgey to bring here.

ayrt

(Anonymous) 2022-03-15 01:47 am (UTC)(link)
even then, it's not really worth complaining about here.

I have no idea who this is about, I'm just so used to wedding fundraising being a thing I didn't see issue with it from what information I had.

If they have a history of scamming people, I can see where this might be gripe-worthy but op should've lead with that if true.