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Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

omg anon, i feel for you. i'm cis but can't imagine being transmasc and stuck with an i cup.

as someone who's had the surgery, if you can afford it or get insurance to cover it, i highly recommend it. for me it was the "happiest" surgery i could ever ask for. after a 2 week recovery on narcotic painkillers, i felt immediate improvement and comfort. it's literal weight off your chest! to top it off, the scars are kind of cool.

if you have any worries about the surgery and that's why you're unsure, i can go into more detail on my personal experience.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

yeah, it's not the experience of surgery that i'm worried about so much as like...you really cannot bind an i cup effectively, or if you can i haven't found the binder that does it, so i have no way to test an unboobified body? and i don't know if just getting a reduction is a good idea for the sole purpose of "bring me down to bindable size so i can then decide if i want them off completely." like it seems if i'm gonna undergo major chest surgery i should be sure of which kind of surgery i want first instead of having to have it twice, lol.

it would probably be easier if i was a binary trans man, because then the answer would presumably be pretty clear, but alas, i am but an enby who's just sort of moving more mascward the older i get. and truly has NO idea how the world is going to react to me in a body without boobs.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

as someone that sees them as sort of 'not really a part of me because they're 'the boobs'', i'd advise getting a reduction and not a complete mastectomy. because of your situation and the nb ness of it and binding, and just the size and all that, it's less of a blow/adjustment to go from an i (i'm the h anon) to something like a d. they're still there/large, but they'd be bindable then (though i'd suggest asking for a c since that's where i think i'd be more comfortable than where i'm currently at). you'd still have boobs, still have to bind them, but they wouldn't be this 'presence' in your life that i find large breasts tend to be. it might make it easier for you to handle having them if they just aren't so much. and there's nothing saying you can't get a secondary operation after, but it's easier to take off more later than regret having so much gone.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

that's good advice anon, thank you. i really appreciate it! i'm hoping that at some point (once healthcare shit is a bit more sorted) i'll be able to swing a few appointments with a therapist who can help me with this decision further. i can't really picture myself being that mad about the total mastectomy, but i also can't picture myself ever going back to a femme name and i still have a femme new middle name in case i do, and i can't picture myself being that mad about going through surgery a second time, either.