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"Team dad or mom" types who are barely older than the people they are dadding or momming. I don't mind say, Gibbs in NCIS cause he's a grown-ass actual adult and most of the team really is young enough to be his kids, but Shiro (or rather the fandom version of Shiro) from Voltron is what this smacks of to me. While it's a bit more rare in canon proper, it seems like fandom will run these types into the ground, with fanart and fanfiction really playing it up ad nauseum, and making it seem like they have no other traits than to watch over their teammates.

Gonna be honest: RP is primarily what soured me to this dynamic, where you have these people in the games who are maybe a teenager or at MOST in their mid-twenties out there being the "dad" or "mom" to a bunch of teen not even ten years younger than they are. And oftentimes these people are flanderized already from maybe caring about only a few people in canon into suddenly being a dad or mom to the whole frigging game. I've had to fight before to let my "adult" (by the standards of his time in the Middle Ages) character basically tell people to fuck off, that he is perfectly capable of taking care of himself even though he's sixteen and is gonna be offended if you try to adopt him, thank you very much. Never goes over well.

i hate those types too anon, but i also hate the "kids" who go along with it. imagine "replacing" your real parents with this random guy a handful of years older than you... no thanks

da +1 to being annoyed by both sides of this

I find it creepy when a teen character decides to start referring to my character as their mom or their dad when they've only known them a few months at most. and similarly creepy in the other direction. but if you start pointing out how unrealistic it is for teens and children to be running around unsupervised and talking to strangers without adults caring about their welfare people get mad.

I prefer these days to just play in games that don't allow kids. it's much easier for me and the people who want to play out that type of cr.

+1 to avoiding any games with kids. i honestly can't stand most child characters and obnoxious cr dynamics are one of my main reasons why.

well at least you've followed your opinions of "it's bad when kids don't have parental supervision in games" and "it's also bad when kids find surrogate parental figures in games" to their natural conclusion

i have literally only ever seen this done in an ooc joking manner

the actual tags are never "HE THINKS OF HIM LIKE HIS SON" or "THAT'S HIM, THAT'S HIS NEW DAD"

okay

well thats not what this thread is about, but thanks for the input, protagonist of reality

your experiences are not universal

To be fair, dwrp is full of orphans with no one to actually replace.

+1

also love how it's acceptable for players to drop canon romances in games so they can establish replacement relationships in 6-12 months but god forbid kids (who would be even more desperate for normalcy than adults) find someone they can rely on like a parent, or adults who are used to taking care of others do the same with kids

I don't know how to begin to tell you the difference between two adults having a consenting short term relationship and a child doing the same thing with a full grown adult who isn't related to them anon

oh grow up or go back to twitter. it's fiction and games don't last the years it'd take for that to be ~acceptable~ or ~normal~

if someone ship pushed a relationship in a game it would be called out or reported to the mods, but nobody blinks when a kid character starts to talk about someone else being their "dad" or their "mom".

some people are uncomfortable with that anon, for good reasons and reactions like this are why players in this community keep getting away with it.

if it's your character, ask them to stop. if it isn't your character, is it really any of your business?

when it happened to me, I asked them to stop and they ignored me and kept pushing for it and referring to the relationship like that in plurks/OOC. I ended up just dropping the CR and ultimately the game.

poor you? you could have taken it to the mods.

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I had someone do exactly this thing to me too, even when I told them my character had a living mom back home and wouldn’t call anyone else mom because that’s weird, and also they barely knew each other. It’s just as ship pushy as any romantic relationship.

That said I still don’t hate the team mom/dad trope. Just ship pushers. It can be done right and be a lot of fun.

(“Why didn’t you go to the mods?” I was the mod and especially at the time punishing someone for bothering me specifically would have gone over like a lead balloon in dwrp.)

for me the issue isn't seeing a parental figure in someone else, so much as 'yeah he's my dad after knowing each other for a month and being only 2 years younger when I have an actual dad back at home' that makes it weird

my twenty-something character moms kids in canon though

don't let the fun police get you down, anon

i dont know if you realize this but 'team mom' and 'team dad' just means they're the mature and reasonable ones who wind up taking care of their less level headed allies it's not literally surrogate parenthood

+1 lmao some people be taking words too fucking literally around here

y'all autistic or aspies or what

legit it's so weird that some people only take things at face value or can't tell a white lie or something.

+1 not even being derogatory, taking things too literally or at face value, or being unable to tell white lies, or being unable to parse social context is on the spectrum

and yes someone will go "actually not everyone on the spectrum is like this" which is true

but it certainly says something about the majority of anons who act like this and then become hyper defensive about their behavior being called aspie/autistic sounding.

im not trying to be derogatory either because that's literally a thing, sounding and being autistic or on the spectrum.

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