i am having the same problem. a couple of my friends volunteered to help but i have had such bad experiences in the past with friends treating comod ship like an Honorary Friendship Title where their role is to make supportive noises over DM whenever I am struggling and abuse their power to play favourites.

i want to know my comods are able to keep up with whatever monthly responsibilities they commit to, and that they won't go mad with power, but i have no idea how to judge that in advance without doing weird job interview shit.