seeing someone "mourning" people because they're having a child was a definite wtf moment for me. their explanation definitely didn't make it better since they apparently think people stop growing as a person when you have a child and their focus shifts to their family.

i can understand the reasoning behind it because my friends have been having kids while i don't see myself having any, and it definitely affects the time we used to spend with each other or what we can do since they now have a baby or toddler on hand. the thing is i'm willing to make adjustments since my schedule and time is more flexible then theirs since i don't have a child, and i'm fine with accommodating my friend because i do want to spend time with them even as they're going through major life changes. but their focus is on how they won't have as much time to spend with them in fandom, movies, and games. i'm just baffled because it comes across as extremely self centered and selfish to me.