from someone else who plays mostly dudes: i think part of the frustration is when people brand female characters as uninteresting/annoying/bitchy/unlikeable for the exact same character traits that they drool over for male characters, which IS undeniably a fandom problem

if character A is manipulative, annoying, and rude, it's telling when you bash character B for those same things just because she has a vagina, lol, and it's really transparent when you say "there are no good female characters, take for example Bitchy McMurder Vanessa. now if you'll excuse me i have tags for Bitchy McMurder Jacob to do"