(frozen comment) Re: MEME PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2024-09-17 01:19 pm (UTC)(link)
> theyre calling the attention of the mods in one community to an example of the one specific character that is a problem.

Actually, they're calling the attention of the mods because they don't want to be the ones to contact the player.

(frozen comment) Re: MEME PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2024-09-17 02:24 pm (UTC)(link)
ayep. they’re an anxiety chihuahua who’d rather use others as attack dogs against the player instead of telling them what they’re doing wrong.

if they confronted the player on their BS, i’d at least respect that. but no, it’s so haaaaarrrrddd!

(frozen comment) Re: MEME PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2024-09-17 02:34 pm (UTC)(link)
exactly.

shit, them coming to wankgate is proof of their spinelessness to actually communicate with the player in question. unless someone has actually approached them to tell them WHY this character makes them uncomfortable, they'll keep handwringing here about it hoping someone else does the work for them.

trying to sic the mods on them now is just another low.

"b-b-b-b-buh what if they get d-d-d-defensive about their OC???!" then screencap and send THAT shit to the mods.

(frozen comment) Re: MEME PET PEEVES

(Anonymous) 2024-09-17 02:54 pm (UTC)(link)
ayep. i would have contacted the player first and told them “look, you’re doing shit wrong and here’s why, you should at least consider changing it”. only if the player thew a fit or ignored it i’d come here to tattle tale, or tell the BS mods.

but no, to them that’s HARRRRD.

(frozen comment) Kudos to this anon in the report thread

(Anonymous) 2024-09-17 03:36 pm (UTC)(link)
communication and putting on their big boy pants is supposed to be step one.

(frozen comment) Re: Kudos to this anon in the report thread

(Anonymous) 2024-09-17 04:32 pm (UTC)(link)
if you're too conflict avoidant/anxiety ridden that you can't actually bring up your issues to the person you have your issues with who isn't even playing with you, just existing in the same space you frequent? it's looking less like they're the one with the issue.

(frozen comment) Re: Kudos to this anon in the report thread

(Anonymous) 2024-09-17 04:34 pm (UTC)(link)
eh. i don't agree that the target of the perceived racism racism should necessarily be the one to confront the potential racist

it's ok to go to mods first for such issues

(frozen comment) Re: Kudos to this anon in the report thread

(Anonymous) 2024-09-17 04:49 pm (UTC)(link)
show me where the op of this is jewish, black, a vampire, goblin, or all of the above.

for the record, it would be up to the person offended to point out, as the offended party, that it's offensive. i'm not going to listen to sjw white saviors screaming about cultural appropriation or racism. i would listen to a native american saying they'd prefer if you buy a dreamcatcher or anything else that's based on native american art style, that you buy from an actual native american artist. i would also listen to a jewish person bringing up that 'jewed' is a racial slur and to please not use it, since a lot of people seem to be ignorant of the origin of a lot of popular vernacular. about a decade ago, i took jewed and gypped out of my vocabulary when i found out that they were slurs. i've walked away from arguments with people nowadays who say that it doesn't mean that and no one's offended.

but if i said something/did something that actually offended someone, i would want to know, because i can't change/alter my behavior if no one tells me. i would want to know if i'm playing what's essentially a tarbaby character. no one seems to have told this person and are just going with, 'well, they should have known'. how? not everyone is into politics or racial/cultural matters. especially if they aren't black/jewish and don't have anyone in their social circle.

someone reach out and tell this person if they're so pissed over it. i'm not against dragging this back here if they react like a racist asshole, but right now, it's all assumption and guessing, and at least two people here have gone to the public comm mods to act on it. put the torch down.

(frozen comment) Re: Kudos to this anon in the report thread

(Anonymous) 2024-09-17 05:07 pm (UTC)(link)
do you really need to see op's race credentials to believe they were genuinely offended?