Re: WORST M/F PLAYERS

(Anonymous) 2024-09-25 08:54 am (UTC)(link)
ignoring tags is the norm on bakerstreet. i found it very hard to get used to when i started using this site lol that sort of sucks in a way since I've had that happen to me where my tags were ignored but i have also similarly ignored tags that don't pique my interest.

Re: WORST M/F PLAYERS

(Anonymous) 2024-09-25 09:11 am (UTC)(link)
depends on where my head's at. i find some people are fine with a no thank you, others delete out of embarrassment. others want to know why. and those i ignore because most of the time my reason is 'i'm not interested in your canon/character and i don't like or want to play out the dynamic'. a lot of people have problems compartmentalizing the fact that someone not liking a thing they like doesn't mean they don't like them. i can't tell you how many times i've gotten in rl arguments with someone because 'no thank you, i don't like show, movie, food', but they take it personally. my not liking raisin bread doesn't mean i hate your guts. or that you have bad taste. it just means I don't like the thing.

it's not something i like having to sugar coat or dance around in rejections, so a lot of times, ghosting is just easier.