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There's nothing "weird" about observing and noticing what's happening around you. There's nothing "weird" about being aware of your social environment or remembering patterns of behavior.

You throw the word "stalking" in to make normal human behavior sound creepy and overinvested. If someone notices a squatter they must be "stalking" them now? Fuck off.

The shame isn't on more observant people for rubbing their brain cells together, it's on you for trying to make everyone feel like that's a bad thing to do. And that isn't just about game AC it's about pretty much everything in life.

jfc who hurt you?

no, being able to say for certain that you know the threads someone linked for ac were their only threads for the month is strange, because it implies that they are looking at every post in the game to count someone else's comments. which is taking a game way too seriously. if someone made ac you need to leave it alone.

lots of people just link the longest or the most recent because not everyone can stay on top of thread trackers. being this aware of other people's rp to claim that they know someone dropped all their other threads or whatever is actually weird.

counting other people's comments in a game is far from observing your environment for safety, are u ok

we need to stop acting like noticing things like this is stalking

whenever people act appalled that other people notice the activity of others players in a shared game i assume they're just wildly inactive and sensitive about it. i at least skim pretty much every open post in games i'm in to look for things to tag and when you do that you passively clock who is doing shit and who isn't. i also notice while doing this who only tags one or two people and so on.

i'd have to gouge my own eyes out or cast some kind of weird spell where my brain only perceived the things i end up choosing to tag rather than the things i do not in order to miss these kinds of patterns.

do you count all the flowers in your neighbors' gardens as part of noticing the world around you, too?

oh, wait, that would require you to go outside. nvm.

nah but i notice what kind of flowers they're planting bro, and how often they water their garden

and if they leave it until everything starts to yellow and wither, you bet your ass i'm noticing that and judging them for it.

that's one thing, but claiming you can notice someone NOT RPing is hard. you have to look for that to some extent. if you see a thread DROPPING pattern that is much more legit than somehow knowing that someone isn't playing at all and yet they're making ac. it's different than just taking hiatuses and strikes which is definitely easier to be aware of if you read all the ac comments ... which is also very weird, to me? but maybe people who care about how active others are for judgy reasons do that?

i kinda doubt that you can confirm someone always drops threads unless you are checking every single one of their posts, but you can notice if they're often not replying after a certain amount of time on big group things or whatever

do you think that people don't talk to each other in a game? legit, man. people don't exist in a vacuum in games

if ppl notice flakes in memes, they're gonna notice flakes in memes.

*games lmao soz

idg this. most games do their events as gamewide logs and require threads to be played out in the game logs or network communities to count for AC. if someone is consistently never showing up on public venues that you as a presumably active player regularly inhabit, how do you not notice? sorry, think you're just not super observant, because i notice absentees even when they're playing characters i have no interest in. it's not stalking, it's adding 1 (character is on taken list) +1 (character never shows up). i'd get it if it were someone going MIA one-two months, but if it's a chronic habit, legit not sure how you don't notice, unless your game is so huge and with such high turnover that you either assume they dropped or tagging into the dozens of individual logs that go up every day.

and i'm not ayrt fwiw, just another anon who finds your pov unusual.

think there's more than one anon who is arguing it's weird though it could be one person trying really hard to look like multiple people

also not previously in the thread: i agree with this but ALSO that dup is gigantic. yumi stands out because of the hiatus chaining, but otherwise i would not have noticed either way. i don't notice kit being particularly active or inactive; they are on the events and stuff and also play a minor character so if the cast didn't have a cap no one would gaf. it isn't like either of them are playing captain america and i don't feel the need to check either's individual threads and see how
many times they tagged or what the dates are. if your cr is ok with your pace and the mods are, you're fine. but it is not unreasonable for others to have passively noticed if someone is glaringly absent. the yellowing flowers was a good comeback to the counting flowers and both are right - counting others' comments to decide if they're squatting when you aren't the mods is bizarre. but noticing if someone goes months without playing isn't.

Yumi stands out because they make posts whining no one wanted them because they somehow weren't included on a ig meme that hadn't gone up yet, and makes plurks about how people dropping ruined their muse's life and how people that overextend are shit. I am taking this forever hiatus as a chance to separate my muse from theirs and not get involved again after that shit.

it's not really if you ever check the taken list and notice you've never seen x y or z around. and taken lists usually have links to inboxes so it's not like no one ever goes to them?

i wouldn't say i am that concerned with what other people do but it's very very easy to note tagging patterns in a game if you are actively tagging out to open posts because they're right there. dropped threads isn't hard to clock either if you check in at open log posts multiple times to see if there's any new top levels.

okay, true. i am convinced, it's less weird than it sounds at first blush. taking it to wg is still weird as it's caring a little too much about someone else's fun but some people cannot help observing

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I'm responding to this from a perspective of someone in a large game who notices these fairly easily without trying:

I check plotting posts every month and see the same faces every time, some I never tagged before and some I have tagged at least once. I'd see players too who dropped threads on me or I do not see making posts in comms. Every week, I'd sweep through the comms to see what are the new posts available. Sometimes, posts have a lot of comments, sometimes little to no comments. I prioritize those with little to no comments in hopes of getting new CR.

Now, if I tag into those and not get a tag back, I assume they flaked on me once and don't follow up. I'd forget about that post after. Then, next month, I'd see them making a new post again that gets a few comments, and then again the month after and month after that. At that point, I might wonder enough to do a quick post check for them and see what is up. That's usually how I'd know if they have a thread dropping pattern as a poster.

For those I don't see around at all, I usually see they are in the game through plurk because I see people conversing in plotting posts I might also be in. If I get curious enough after a few months of not seeing them in gamewide events or posts, I might check their inbox to see if they actually tag there. Sometimes you'd see they do thread only until they pass AC and drop the tag.

It's actually a lot easier to notice a pattern even if you aren't actively trying just by looking around for new things to tag or plotting with unrelated people.

also i don't really care about flakes unless they're a close canonmate like a family member or something, it's just really easy to notice if they're the type of flake who is very loud in ooc chatter, whether it is plotting posts or plurk or elsewhere.

but in yumis case

she yells about the withering flowers and what on earth should she have done to prevent that and why can't her flowers be like her neighbors'

this is the truth

she sounds like a bad plurk follow choice

let's say it's true. let's say they are a flake

why do you care

what business is it of yours

if they're an inactive castmate then just say that. otherwise it has nothing to do with you. that's why it feels like stalking.

yeah if you have a problem with someone's activity for your cr, that is a wholly different situation. that is a talk to them, maybe they can play more and maybe they'll drop!

when it's a third party you don't play with just because you want their slot in a game that doesn't have any rules they aren't following, it seems weird/overinvested. stop breathing down people's necks waiting for them to leave.

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