I'm guessing some people are new here, so we'll go over this yet again. You're on the internet. That means you're free to say whatever you like, but just because you're free to do it doesn't mean it's private or that everyone has to like it. The minute you hit enter and share this stuff, it's no longer private. Don't like it? Don't share it.
When you have 50+ people on your "private" plurk list, it's not so private, is it? You're basically announcing to all those people all the details of your life for good, bad or otherwise. It's just like making a facebook post about similar subjects. You may have added someone from spin class that you think is legit, but that doesn't mean they give a goddamn about your privacy when you're happy to spill your guts about the minutia of your life to people you hardly know. You can cry "private" all you want, but really all that means is you're cutting a slightly smaller circle to crow for attention in. This person, for better or worse, was crowing for attention and now she has it, doesn't she? It happens to be negative attention, but that's the chance you take when you share every gory detail of your life with that many people.
I don't blame her at all for cutting people from her plurk, in fact, it seems the most logical option. But I hope she and all the people here who are clutching their pearls over someone sharing *gasp* private information consider this a lesson learned.
Not new and not clutching pearls that it was a thing that happened in an objective void -- it's what I expect of the nasty side of internet social culture (which really isn't that different than traditional ol' social culture, just a new permutation of it). It's not, however, what I expect of people whom I'm friendly with (internet or not), and I have a number of friendly acquaintances who are potentially mutual from the situation here. Just because I've accepted that people on the internet (and in life) often behave like fuckwads doesn't mean that I want to be friends with people who are fuckwads.
You're completely disregarding the other side of this. Yes, someone is free to come over here and share details that were posted in a private plurk. Some people are complete shitstains and see nothing wrong with kicking people while they're down and trying to add to misery. That doesn't mean everyone has to sit back and accept it. Oh well. These things happen. Shitty people do shitty things. Guess we'd better all just keep our heads down and our mouths shut because calling people out on their shitty behavior is frowned on by certain people on the internet who would rather waggle their fingers at victims and tell them how stupid they are for talking to people they believed to be friends than put the responsibility where it really falls. On the shitstains.
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If you think that's how this works, then I think you're way newer here than anybody you're trying to lecture and you sound like a tool.
Even if the given context of people gathering expressly for the purpose of publicly gossiping or "letting off steam" is accepted, there's still a line that can be crossed at which point one is just acting like a terrible person. Internet =/= immunity
Whether or not you should feel your internet friends are actually good people (I am a wary and cynical person I suppose), you are not to blame for the actions of assholes. A lock is not an oath to secrecy, but there is some trust involved. She does tend to think too much of people, and I do hope she's learned. Whine less, trust less. We aren't close and I'm not arguing she needs to sort out her shit but obviously no one here is actually concerned for her, they're just laughing at her.
Suggesting someone lies about their life when there is explicit proof for pretty much everything they post also makes you rather foolish looking, though. If you didn't care enough to pay attention but you care enough to remember and mention it here. . . Motives. Priorities. Something about you sucks, sorry.
...but obviously no one here is actually concerned for her, they're just laughing at her.
Have you not seen the thread above where people are concerned about her? And I think those anons were less concerned about the truth of what was happening to her than her hyperbolic response to things that happen to her. The thread might have started on a shitty note, and I won't defend the poor timing of it, but you can't just steamroll over valid complaints because of that.
Also, there are multiple anons in this thread, and just because one of them sticks around for the lulz doesn't mean they all do.
A blanket statement was unfair of me, apologies for that. There do appear to be concerned parties that are not also wanking. Still, for the majority. . . if you're concerned you wouldn't really be having "valid complaints" on a hate meme. Concerns are not complaints. Concerns are not derogatory language and insults and quoting personal information. Maybe what this thread lacks is consideration, not concern.
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Re: PELL
(Anonymous) 2012-09-14 12:25 am (UTC)(link)When you have 50+ people on your "private" plurk list, it's not so private, is it? You're basically announcing to all those people all the details of your life for good, bad or otherwise. It's just like making a facebook post about similar subjects. You may have added someone from spin class that you think is legit, but that doesn't mean they give a goddamn about your privacy when you're happy to spill your guts about the minutia of your life to people you hardly know. You can cry "private" all you want, but really all that means is you're cutting a slightly smaller circle to crow for attention in. This person, for better or worse, was crowing for attention and now she has it, doesn't she? It happens to be negative attention, but that's the chance you take when you share every gory detail of your life with that many people.
I don't blame her at all for cutting people from her plurk, in fact, it seems the most logical option. But I hope she and all the people here who are clutching their pearls over someone sharing *gasp* private information consider this a lesson learned.
Re: PELL
(Anonymous) 2012-09-14 04:45 am (UTC)(link)+1
(Anonymous) 2012-09-14 05:19 am (UTC)(link)Re: PELL
(Anonymous) 2012-09-14 07:26 am (UTC)(link)Nope.gif
If you think that's how this works, then I think you're way newer here than anybody you're trying to lecture and you sound like a tool.
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(Anonymous) 2012-09-14 12:40 pm (UTC)(link)Even if the given context of people gathering expressly for the purpose of publicly gossiping or "letting off steam" is accepted, there's still a line that can be crossed at which point one is just acting like a terrible person. Internet =/= immunity
Re: PELL
(Anonymous) 2012-09-14 02:50 pm (UTC)(link)Whether or not you should feel your internet friends are actually good people (I am a wary and cynical person I suppose), you are not to blame for the actions of assholes. A lock is not an oath to secrecy, but there is some trust involved. She does tend to think too much of people, and I do hope she's learned. Whine less, trust less. We aren't close and I'm not arguing she needs to sort out her shit but obviously no one here is actually concerned for her, they're just laughing at her.
Suggesting someone lies about their life when there is explicit proof for pretty much everything they post also makes you rather foolish looking, though. If you didn't care enough to pay attention but you care enough to remember and mention it here. . . Motives. Priorities. Something about you sucks, sorry.
Re: PELL
(Anonymous) 2012-09-14 03:59 pm (UTC)(link)Have you not seen the thread above where people are concerned about her? And I think those anons were less concerned about the truth of what was happening to her than her hyperbolic response to things that happen to her. The thread might have started on a shitty note, and I won't defend the poor timing of it, but you can't just steamroll over valid complaints because of that.
Also, there are multiple anons in this thread, and just because one of them sticks around for the lulz doesn't mean they all do.
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(Anonymous) 2012-09-14 05:55 pm (UTC)(link)