idk, this is going to go back to that argument from the last post, but I kind of wish my attacker would at least THINK about it and reflect on doing wrong at least once a fucking year.
I think the plurk itself is gross as fuck, but if he's feeling guilty and depressed over it, then good. I hope he feels guilty and depressed 24/7/365.
I hope it haunts him for the rest of his fucking life. Not in the 'i want to pity him for his guilt' way or in the 'i approve of him plurking about it' way but just in the 'never forget the scum you are fucker' sort of way
I would like him to try and BECOME a better person, actually. And if he's reflecting on that, fine. But your circumstances were not mine, so I'm not going to say you're wrong, and I'd appreciate you not doing the same to me.
This just hits home for me in very personal ways because (it seems like) it was a lot like what happened to me. And I wish mine would at least start to be reflective.
All three of mine as well. Well make that two of mine. One of them died of horrible throat cancer, which I am sorry to say is well deserved. For raping me, his other g/f who was my friend, his half sister...which he said was okay to do too because she wasn't really related to him. And tons of other woman.
Ew, that's so gross :( I'm so sorry that happened to you and the others.
I'm honestly really conflicted. I mean, fuck him for what he did, I think that's horrendous and that feeling guilty for the rest of his life / trying to make amends ISN'T the literal least he could do (because I've known men who have done so much less) is really fucking depressing.
I totally get the anger and hatred at him, I do. I don't want to defend him.
But at the same time, I can't help but feel like I said. Like I wish the things he was thinking and saying were the things that my attacker was thinking and saying, but until the day I moved states he was still leaving me notes because hey, why can't we still be friends again? And so I'm more inclined to give this guy the benefit of the doubt, and I feel guilty for that because other anons are just as right to want him to literally die in a fire.
It's complicated and fucked up. Best of luck, anon.
Yeah, I hear you so much. The first one, who was my very first bf also did the whole stalking me after we split. He also tried to kill me by running me over with his truck. He would follow me everywhere. I went to the cops about it, and they said that they couldn't do anything about it since we were a couple and there was no evidence.
I want mine to think really hard about it too, be a better man. Though I want all of that catharsis to happen in prison...sooo, yeah. Very complicated and fucked up. Every case is and it is just sad that men need to feel so powerful that they have to resort to rape. It is never about the sex, but domination and control--violence or revenge too.
I really hope that you can find some kind of peace, and that you get justice. Everyone in this thread that has ever been through it. Especially the one he raped. Maybe by plurking about it that it will come around and bite him in the ass? Really well and truly get him to become that better person he states he is.
See I don't get this. Why is it that if you're bound by some invisible thread like family members or a couple you're expected to put up with being threatened or deal with it on your own? If anything, people within families or couples are more at risk, and when the police can't help, who the hell do you go to?
I can understand reflection and I hope he thinks about it and regrets it every day, but why PLURK about it? That's the part I'm not getting here because like you said, it's gross as fuck.
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(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 06:09 am (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) Re: FUNK
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 06:11 am (UTC)(link)I think the plurk itself is gross as fuck, but if he's feeling guilty and depressed over it, then good. I hope he feels guilty and depressed 24/7/365.
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(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 06:13 am (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) Re: FUNK
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 06:16 am (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) ayrt
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 06:20 am (UTC)(link)This just hits home for me in very personal ways because (it seems like) it was a lot like what happened to me. And I wish mine would at least start to be reflective.
(frozen comment) Re: ayrt
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 06:40 am (UTC)(link)I hope karma bites yours in the ass anon.
(frozen comment) Re: ayrt
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 06:50 am (UTC)(link)I'm honestly really conflicted. I mean, fuck him for what he did, I think that's horrendous and that feeling guilty for the rest of his life / trying to make amends ISN'T the literal least he could do (because I've known men who have done so much less) is really fucking depressing.
I totally get the anger and hatred at him, I do. I don't want to defend him.
But at the same time, I can't help but feel like I said. Like I wish the things he was thinking and saying were the things that my attacker was thinking and saying, but until the day I moved states he was still leaving me notes because hey, why can't we still be friends again? And so I'm more inclined to give this guy the benefit of the doubt, and I feel guilty for that because other anons are just as right to want him to literally die in a fire.
It's complicated and fucked up. Best of luck, anon.
(frozen comment) Re: ayrt
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 07:14 am (UTC)(link)Yeah, I hear you so much. The first one, who was my very first bf also did the whole stalking me after we split. He also tried to kill me by running me over with his truck. He would follow me everywhere. I went to the cops about it, and they said that they couldn't do anything about it since we were a couple and there was no evidence.
I want mine to think really hard about it too, be a better man. Though I want all of that catharsis to happen in prison...sooo, yeah. Very complicated and fucked up. Every case is and it is just sad that men need to feel so powerful that they have to resort to rape. It is never about the sex, but domination and control--violence or revenge too.
I really hope that you can find some kind of peace, and that you get justice. Everyone in this thread that has ever been through it. Especially the one he raped. Maybe by plurking about it that it will come around and bite him in the ass? Really well and truly get him to become that better person he states he is.
(frozen comment) da
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 01:51 pm (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) ayrt
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 06:23 am (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) Re: FUNK
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 06:13 am (UTC)(link)because when you say it's been four years since you've had a drink, people will be proud of how far you've come
except in this case, it's been four year since you fucking raped somebody
and nobody is fucking impressed with your ability to go four years without raping somebody, you worthless sack of shit