It seems like someone saying he feels remorse, guilt and sadness over what he's done and wishes he hadn't.
The problem is that the way he talks about it and presents it seems to say 'I wish I hadn't done it because I have to deal with the consequences', not 'I wish I hadn't done it because my victim has to deal with the consequences.' That's the vital difference here.
I think he's seriously fucked up in the head and has a lot of issues he needs to deal with professionally. It's clear that he still doesn't understand the concept of taking responsibility. 'It was undoubtedly rape from her perspective' tells you all you need to know about him. He severely needs help. I don't know if he deserves help, but he sure as hell needs it.
And, sorry, but the whole 'I donate money to sexual assault awareness charities so that makes me a good guy' claim is just stupid. It's as weak as the 'I'm not racist, I have a black friend!' response. He could donate millions of fucking dollars to the cause and still be a terrible person.
He is not doing everything he can to atone. He still roleplays rape threads (which means that he DOES receive pleasure out of, if not the act itself, the idea of rape, and please do not say that he's allowed to have a rape kink, because a rape kink takes on an entirely different meaning when the person with the kink is an actual rapist), still purports social justice without understanding what it actually means aside from making himself look good, still stalks and harasses women if other anons are to be believed, and blatantly lies to his friends about what he's done.
He spends more time dragging his feet in the mud and weeping about how sorry he feels for himself than he does recognizing that the impact he made on the victim's life is so much worse, and that's why he's still despicable.
He still roleplays rape threads (which means that he DOES receive pleasure out of, if not the act itself, the idea of rape, and please do not say that he's allowed to have a rape kink, because a rape kink takes on an entirely different meaning when the person with the kink is an actual rapist)
this. i don't give a shit if someone has a rape kink, YKNMK and all, but if a rapist is indulging in rape threads then that's just seriously fucked up and not okay. i don't know how anyone can look at the fact that he enthusiastically roleplays rape and still go 'yep, he sure seems remorseful'.
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(frozen comment) Re: FUNK
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 08:47 am (UTC)(link)The problem is that the way he talks about it and presents it seems to say 'I wish I hadn't done it because I have to deal with the consequences', not 'I wish I hadn't done it because my victim has to deal with the consequences.' That's the vital difference here.
I think he's seriously fucked up in the head and has a lot of issues he needs to deal with professionally. It's clear that he still doesn't understand the concept of taking responsibility. 'It was undoubtedly rape from her perspective' tells you all you need to know about him. He severely needs help. I don't know if he deserves help, but he sure as hell needs it.
And, sorry, but the whole 'I donate money to sexual assault awareness charities so that makes me a good guy' claim is just stupid. It's as weak as the 'I'm not racist, I have a black friend!' response. He could donate millions of fucking dollars to the cause and still be a terrible person.
He is not doing everything he can to atone. He still roleplays rape threads (which means that he DOES receive pleasure out of, if not the act itself, the idea of rape, and please do not say that he's allowed to have a rape kink, because a rape kink takes on an entirely different meaning when the person with the kink is an actual rapist), still purports social justice without understanding what it actually means aside from making himself look good, still stalks and harasses women if other anons are to be believed, and blatantly lies to his friends about what he's done.
He spends more time dragging his feet in the mud and weeping about how sorry he feels for himself than he does recognizing that the impact he made on the victim's life is so much worse, and that's why he's still despicable.
(frozen comment) Re: FUNK
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 08:50 am (UTC)(link)this. i don't give a shit if someone has a rape kink, YKNMK and all, but if a rapist is indulging in rape threads then that's just seriously fucked up and not okay. i don't know how anyone can look at the fact that he enthusiastically roleplays rape and still go 'yep, he sure seems remorseful'.