he raped his girlfriend, who he apparently thought had consented to have sex with him when she was consenting out of fear for her safety. that is a lot different than finding random women and brutally raping them.
both are incredibly wrong and i don't doubt people would feel uncomfortable being in a room with him after knowing what we do now, and by golly you have every right to feel uncomfortable about him wanting to meet you in person now, but this still isn't a case of someone who seeks out women to victimize. it's someone who made a grievous, harmful (for his girlfriend) and life-altering (for both himself and his girlfriend) mistake.
are you seriously arguing that we shouldn't be concerned about a rapist who attempted to insinuate himself into our lives (not just our online lives but our ACTUAL IRL LIVES, he asked me to meet him in person about a billion times) because the kind of rape he committed was not the kind of rape we should be worried about
like okay, did he run out and find totally random women and jump out of the bushes? no. but we weren't random women to him. he has trying to get close to us. he was trying to see us in person. he was trying to get us to stay with him for a week or so, at his place or a hotel room or whatever. he was, in other words, trying to put us in the exact same situation that his girlfriend was in right before he fucking raped her. the only argument you can make is "well look, he feels really bad so he would obviously never rape you even if you were alone with him in a hotel room," and that is an incredibly fucking stupid argument
only rapists rape. he wasn't confused he felt entitled to her body. spoiler alert: MOST MEN REALIZE FUCKING SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T WANT IT IS WRONG AND OBJECTIVELY BAD
your rubric for men is giving way too much credit to the idea that he couldn't know he was wrong!
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(frozen comment) Re: dda
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 01:11 pm (UTC)(link)he raped his girlfriend, who he apparently thought had consented to have sex with him when she was consenting out of fear for her safety. that is a lot different than finding random women and brutally raping them.
both are incredibly wrong and i don't doubt people would feel uncomfortable being in a room with him after knowing what we do now, and by golly you have every right to feel uncomfortable about him wanting to meet you in person now, but this still isn't a case of someone who seeks out women to victimize. it's someone who made a grievous, harmful (for his girlfriend) and life-altering (for both himself and his girlfriend) mistake.
(frozen comment) Re: dda
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 01:31 pm (UTC)(link)are you seriously arguing that we shouldn't be concerned about a rapist who attempted to insinuate himself into our lives (not just our online lives but our ACTUAL IRL LIVES, he asked me to meet him in person about a billion times) because the kind of rape he committed was not the kind of rape we should be worried about
like okay, did he run out and find totally random women and jump out of the bushes? no. but we weren't random women to him. he has trying to get close to us. he was trying to see us in person. he was trying to get us to stay with him for a week or so, at his place or a hotel room or whatever. he was, in other words, trying to put us in the exact same situation that his girlfriend was in right before he fucking raped her. the only argument you can make is "well look, he feels really bad so he would obviously never rape you even if you were alone with him in a hotel room," and that is an incredibly fucking stupid argument
(frozen comment) Re: dda
(Anonymous) 2013-04-14 03:04 pm (UTC)(link)only rapists rape. he wasn't confused he felt entitled to her body. spoiler alert: MOST MEN REALIZE FUCKING SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T WANT IT IS WRONG AND OBJECTIVELY BAD
your rubric for men is giving way too much credit to the idea that he couldn't know he was wrong!
which is bullshit.