you can talk about your bad experiences with people and their faults without jumping right in to "they're abusive! i was abused! this person ruined my life through rp! any mention of their fandoms, their interests, the characters they play, their favorite bands, or the state they live in triggers me!" which i swear to god i've seen before
there's actual life ruining shit, like calling someone's university and trying to get them in trouble, and then there's "seeing this person around in games makes me uncomfy because we had fights over stupid rp shit"
Seeing it before once doesn't mean that everyone with a grievance is jumping right to that. For the record, my issue with Quix isn't about stupid rp shit, but thank you for assuming that just because I called her abusive. This aggressive and controlling behavior of hers extends past RP shit, she doesn't suddenly become a ray of sunshine just because you're talking about non-fandom things. It's everything. Full stop.
The point I'm trying to make is that you don't know the story of the person on the other side of the screen from you. Maybe you could try not assuming that everyone using the word is using it incorrectly because that's a damaging thing to say to someone who has already had their self-esteem and confidence put through the shredder by an abusive friendship.
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Re: dda -1
(Anonymous) 2016-05-09 05:25 am (UTC)(link)you can talk about your bad experiences with people and their faults without jumping right in to "they're abusive! i was abused! this person ruined my life through rp! any mention of their fandoms, their interests, the characters they play, their favorite bands, or the state they live in triggers me!" which i swear to god i've seen before
there's actual life ruining shit, like calling someone's university and trying to get them in trouble, and then there's "seeing this person around in games makes me uncomfy because we had fights over stupid rp shit"
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(Anonymous) 2016-05-09 01:24 pm (UTC)(link)The point I'm trying to make is that you don't know the story of the person on the other side of the screen from you. Maybe you could try not assuming that everyone using the word is using it incorrectly because that's a damaging thing to say to someone who has already had their self-esteem and confidence put through the shredder by an abusive friendship.