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239: how does one become popular on dreamwidth rp?

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i hate unnecessary gfms as much as the next person, but how is this taking advantage of anybody? they're not lying about what the money is for. no one is holding a gun to anyone's head and forcing them to donate. no one is being taken advantage of here.

anons get upset when you mention weddings because they're all fat and will never have one

lol this

plus nobody is forcing anyone to donate, just asking. not sure how different this is than asking irl friends for gifts/help with a wedding.

uh

you don't ask your irl friends to help pay for your wedding either

tonnes of people ask for help and for gifts for their weddings. plenty of people make their wedding party pay into it to help get where they're going/decorate/and whatever else have you. sorry for bursting your bubble.

three thousand dollars is not a reasonable expectation to hoist onto your friends and people who expect that amount of money (or more) are regularly and rightfully shamed for acting like entitled prima donnas who just want their special day!!! at the expense of everyone else

sorry for bursting yours, but this person is an asshole and there's probably a reason they've made a grand total of seven dollars so far

asking people to donate =/= foisting demands onto them to pay for a wedding. i said "help," nowhere did I imply people expect their friends to pay for all of it. if the person in the plurk does then that's them it doesn't take away from what i said which is that people help their friends out during weddings all the time.

lmao having a wedding registry for gifts isn't even remotely the same thing as expecting your friends to help pay for the wedding itself. the second one is rightfully seen as tacky by pretty much everyone.

and ftr i've been to a lot of weddings and never once have i been asked to help pay for any of it so idk where you're getting that idea from.

i will say that in the small town i used to live in, it was fairly common for the wedding party to organize a dance (called a stag and doe) with an entry fee in order to raise money for the actual wedding. usually held in someone's barn or whatever

but like

the people who donated would at least get something for their entry fee (a party) and a lot of them were people who would also probably be at the wedding itself. it's weird to ask random people over the internet imo.

considering the amount of people who have more online friends than irl friends in this hobby its kind of strange to wonder why they'd ask online friends to pitch in

tru that a lot of dwrpers are fat but a lot of dwrpers are also married, and most of us did it at a courthouse then went to a nice restaurant after. a lot of millennials who aren't poor or fat or poor and fat and living online also opt for courthouse dates without weddings, because the expense is insane and the hassle is insane. marriage does not equal wedding.

false, I'm fat and getting married

this person has done multiple gfms to the point where it's become apparent they know they can get easy money out of people this way

it's a grift, my dude, you don't have to make excuses for it

I mean, don't donate then

sounds like no one else is either

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