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I'm NOT saying this has anything to do with Ryslig itself specifically but if it isn't at least a little indicative of how often people seem to need to be told not to compare monsters to black people I don't know what is.

I'm not excusing them I'm mostly disappointed.

this situation was actually them comparing the plight of human NPCs to black people, not monsters

(which is still a really dumb and awful take though)

i remembered it backwards originally so ayrt misunderstanding is my bad

You're not sensitive at all, friend. It was a very nasty comment, and it did understandably hurt Luc when it was made and I'm sure it hurt even more when he found out it was Pan who made it. She's not proud of it, whatsoever and neither am I.

The point I wanted to get across wasn't that the comment was nothing to be upset over, or that Pan and I did nothing wrong, but rather that I just wish Luc had reached out to tell Pan why he was blocking her since they were quite close and she would have understood and apologized to him right then and there.

Edited (Typo) 2022-05-26 02:41 (UTC)

that moment when you realize you don't like other people as much as they like you too

it's part of life. not everybody can be super close friends. orbits change, people grow and some click and some don't. don't let it get to you. just don't take any shit from them in an attempt to change that

tbf the link player did equate black people to "NPCs" so it's still pretty yikes

you're right, and i've been on the other end of that, too. i just needed to sad for a bit because we used to be close. but people drift apart, and that's also a part of life

if someone wants to become a parent so bad in this stage then they should fucking adopt or foster the thousands who don't have families, the latter at least provides some government support. if those options are too expensive, how can anyone expect to afford the cost of an american hospital bill on top of clothes, childcare, food, and other emergency expenses?

i know we live in pretends funtime land but wishes and rainbows won't actually help to support a tiny human just because you "want to be a parent" for obviously selfish reasons.

sa "one of the thousands" i don't suggest anyone to actually adopt or foster thousands of kids.

"but adoption's hard and expensive too!!"

ok, then dont have a kid. its not like it gets any easier or less expensive

we've already had this conversation and "i want to be a mommy" isn't the greatest reason to bring a kid into your home, whether it's made from you or not

I'm not a mom and I never plan to be, but I live with my sibling and their spouse and watching them rack up bills for the hospital during the pregnancy, milk formula, diapers, regular check-ups, vaccinations, etc during covid just tells me you'll be spending a lot for that kid. Not to mention the many sleepless nights, frustrations at dealing with tantrums, losing free time, etc.

Like I love the kid, and they definitely do too, but the sacrifice is a lot.

right like we judge the shit out of people who take in pets they can't afford and then e-beg for their expenses. this is a million times worse because you can't go to work and leave a baby to care for itself while you're gone, you have to be prepared for that if you're planning to raise as a responsible single parent. what the fuck is she thinking beyond a stupid gender reveal stunt?

jfc i can't imagine why anyone would want to go through this after seeing how many parents struggled during the formula shortage because the government clearly doesn't give a flying fuck about babies after they're born.

This reminds me of something that happened eons ago in Amat when a player was pretending to be two different people so they could get around some rule or other (selfcest?? character limits??), and after it was discovered and the player was booted, one of the mods (matsu?) made a post talking about it where they went on and on about what a deep personal betrayal this had been, how painful it is to be lied to, etc. It was very awkward to read

(For those who remember amat's Other booted player who pretended to be two people, this wasn't saph and her bevy of MGSs, it was someone else, but I don't remember which one happened first!)

Serious question, what do you think is a good reason to have a kid if not wanting to be a parent? I sure don’t want people who don’t want to be parents having kids.

anything that is not "i want to have the status of 'parent'"

being able to call yourself a milf/dilf isn’t a good enough reason?

there’s a global pandemic. the US just had a critical baby formula shortage because a greedy corporation bought up all the factories and then let them fall apart because it was too cheap to maintain the equipment. world war iii is right around the corner, and if that doesn’t kill everyone, climate change will. we’re currently dealing with late stage capitalism and a time period in which people are openly fascist and white supremacists are no longer ashamed to be white supremacists.

it’s almost immoral to want to inflict this world upon another human being.

having the financial stability and support that's required to raise a kid, for one thing. if you're scrambling to cover the cost it takes just to try and get pregnant, how are you going to support it once it's actually born by yourself? how long is it going to take before you start throwing up gofundmes to guilt trip the internet to cover your child's costs for you?

stupid gender reveal ideas also aren't a good reason.

I agree that being stable is a good prerequisite for becoming a parent. I don’t agree that “wanting to be a parent” is a bad reason to become a parent because I don’t know under what circumstances that would not be true but being a parent would be a good thing.

because "i want to be a parent" is often used to say "i want a child who will depend on and love me" rather than "i want to raise a child into a good adult and make the world a better place for it"

if wanting to be a parent is the only reason despite being constantly broke, then it's not a good reason. this is esp the case if your plan is to raise it alone.

tbh this is no better than those dumb bitches who claim "god will provide for the child" when it's clear the parent can't.

anyone whos ever had dysfunctional neglectful parents can tell you that wanting to be a mom (or dad) because it looks cute and fun is not even in the same galaxy as understanding the necessary sacrifices to raise a well-adjusted human who won't hate you as soon as they're old enough to feel things about more than cereal and cartoons. if someone's not worried about their future budget with a kid, they're pretty obviously not thinking about that kid's long-term well-being

my mom basically had kids because she assumed having children means they're guaranteed to love you and put up with all of your bullshit and then was shocked when we had thoughts and feelings of our own that did not align with cancelling our entire adult lives to live next door to her because that's how people lived when she was growing up.

the expense and sacrifice doesn't even include if your children are born with special needs. my friend has a special needs child and the amount of extra financial hoops not to mention social/societal hoops she has to jump through for her kid is more than you could imagine. anyone who says "i just want to be a parent" without a solid game plan for the next twenty years is setting themselves and their kid up for failure and that's not right.

Ryslig is flat and I would not have sex with it

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