251: back in my day wank meant something

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[(Anonymous)]

It’s the same train of thought as “don’t tell anyone what you’re doing because your brain will think that’s enough and not follow thru to the end” and it’s legitimate psyche stuff

[(Anonymous)]

Which is so weird like. Why did our brains evolve to do that. thinking about doing thing is more fulfilling than doing thing. In what universe is that useful

[(Anonymous)]

just want to point out that this is not normal psychology, this is adhd psychology

normal brains do reward people for doing the actual thing

[(Anonymous)]

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[(Anonymous)]

huh. TIL i think i might be adhd

[(Anonymous)]

it's unfortunate that it's usually portrayed as someone just not being able to concentrate tbh. if it were more widely thought of as "i don't get anything out of doing hard stuff so i'll just do something easy and quick that makes me happy or else i'll feel depressed" there are probably a lot of people who'd get the appropriate treatment much faster

[(Anonymous)]

To combat this, I normally don’t talk about the threads I want to do. We can pick a jumping off point and decide on an ultimate theme, but anything beyond that will ultimately ruin it for me and I won’t want to finish it.

When I’m talking about characters with my partner, I try to stick to things that I ultimately won’t care enough to thread, like abstract AU “wouldn’t it be cute if XYZ” sorta talk. I’ll also talk about how much I’ve enjoyed what’s happened so far in the thread, but I don’t like any kind of “what if we do this next?” because then the joy I’d get by writing it is sorta usurped by planning what it is I’m going to write, and the dopamine is already eaten up by talking about the thing rather than doing the thing.

[(Anonymous)]

This is good advice, anon, thanks. I'll have to try it and see if I can't discipline myself away from the easy dopamine hit of "just talking about it".

[(Anonymous)]

fuck sake. i knew this was a phenomenon i just thought all brains did this because i've seen multiple people talk about it, but without the context of it being ADHD. But the fact that this is, indeed, an adhd thing is just like honestly not fucking surprising AT AAAALL goddamnit lol

[(Anonymous)]

+1

getting dopamine for thinking about a task but not doing it is literally a symptom of adhd. brains wired with faulty dopamine receptors will get some dopamine for thinking about it (novelty! urgency! this is interesting!) so it is high reward/low effort, but the actual task itself will feel like a chore because the dopamine reward will be insufficient to make it worthwhile, so it is low reward/high effort.

adhd brains are literally not able to function the same as neurotypical brains. the fact that many people in dwrp have adhd/audhd explains a lot about why this hobby has such an issue with "flakes" and maintaining motivation.

[(Anonymous)]

i am a huge flake and i was recently diagnosed with adhd. being on meds has helped a lot but i also still need to work on personal discipline and habits.

one thing that was becoming a bigger issue was that while i had plenty of plans and ideas for improving myself and my life, actually applying myself to it was a physical challenge. and i mean it literally - if it wasn’t giving me the dopamine hit, i could basically feel myself shutting down and unable to pay attention. the same thing happened when i was doing the ADHD test actually - i did fine during the quick responses part, but once things slowed down i felt myself feeling falling asleep because i was “bored.” its how i also learned that fatigue can present itself in adhd and it’s not just the stereotypical hyperactive kid bouncing off the walls.

[(Anonymous)]

... I think I need to make a phone call.