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251: back in my day wank meant something

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i'm probably that person you're describing

i just tend to have trouble keeping in touch with people if we're not doing an activity together. personally, i'm like this with irl friends, too -- i'll go long periods without talking to them very much, and then we'll sign up for rec volleyball together and just pick up where we left off.

idk i think framing it as a "fun dispenser" scenario is unkind to both yourself and to the other person. situational friendships are pretty common, especially in hobby spaces. i would guess that they were just having fun with you in the hobby you share, not maliciously pretending to be a fake friend so they could get those sweet sweet tags.

It’s also common for neurodivergent people to be unable to focus their social energy enough to keep up with large amounts of friends. it doesn't mean you’re viewed as less, just the current point in time means their energy is focused more immediately elsewhere.

I have friends I run with that i generally only see often during warm months, and they’re still my friends even if we go months without talking.

this is it for me

if we're not doing an activity together i forget you exist, sorry. same irl too.

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I'm just bad at coming up with things to talk about

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