i know i'll probably catch hell for this from her friends but it's deets on her rl situation that she's already shared with people on her timeline (over 200 people) and placed this on the internet where even her ex has found it. so, it's already pretty public.
https://www.gofundme.com/f38y4ybw
maybe anons here can give her some more advice since i know she goes here. maybe she'll listen. people on her plurk have already tried to help as much as they can, including offering her a place to stay. the problem i have right now is her sounding like she's just going to give up on being safe/finding a way out of where she is now. the police saying they can't help sucks but seriously. you can't just go back to not doing anything, trace.
i'll admit, i've been wondering if she's been lying the whole time. she has a history of lying but maybe she isn't. i don't really know. i just think she needs to stop being stupid about things.
I'm probably getting the wrong impression from the anon who linked the thing, but I thought that meant that she was getting offers to move out with people when she'd made the decision to leave, not before.
I have been a victim of domestic abuse, and I would have left if I'd had the money (thankfully, the asshole was kicked out of my life sooner). If the offers were made before she started asking for money to leave, then I could totally understand her saying no.
the same defenseless grandmother who not only owns the property bf lives on, but didn't seem to give two shits about anything going on with her granddaughter and blamed her for getting into a relationship like that?
i don't know about you, but even though sometimes i hate my family, they're still my family. which means i sure as hell wouldn't ditch them with some psychotic nutjob threatening violence
presumably trace is actually human with actual human bonds and still gives a shit
except sometimes those family members are assholes (either by being abusive or just don't care) and they don't deserve that kind of loyalty, anon.
when you got family members that treat you like shit and would rather blame you for the nutjob being a nutjob instead of actually helping you get to safety (trace's grandmother refused to give her money to help her get away to somewhere safer), you don't need fucking enemies.
just because they are "family" doesn't mean shit. "family" will stab you in the back and leave you for dead just as easily as any stranger. this isn't always the case, i know. there are families that DO have strong bonds but it's just plain wrong to think all of them are like that, anon.
and sometimes you're only hearing one side of the story, and the way they're presenting it doesn't make a lot of sense, especially when they're begging money.
sorry if that's how your family is. but it's also just plain wrong to assume any given family WON'T pull together if there's a crisis going on even if they hate each other the rest of the time
in this case according to trace's story, her gran was still blaming her for getting into a bad situation, up until boyfriend actually threatened said old lady and then she got with the program
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(Anonymous) 2015-11-18 10:53 pm (UTC)(link)https://www.gofundme.com/f38y4ybw
maybe anons here can give her some more advice since i know she goes here. maybe she'll listen. people on her plurk have already tried to help as much as they can, including offering her a place to stay. the problem i have right now is her sounding like she's just going to give up on being safe/finding a way out of where she is now. the police saying they can't help sucks but seriously. you can't just go back to not doing anything, trace.
i'll admit, i've been wondering if she's been lying the whole time. she has a history of lying but maybe she isn't. i don't really know. i just think she needs to stop being stupid about things.
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(Anonymous) 2015-11-19 03:17 am (UTC)(link)There's a lot in this that doesn't really add up to me, but that stands out the most.
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(Anonymous) 2015-11-19 04:35 am (UTC)(link)ask this question to any victim of domestic abuse, whether it's emotional and physical. for many of them it's not always that simple.
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(Anonymous) 2015-11-19 05:46 am (UTC)(link)I have been a victim of domestic abuse, and I would have left if I'd had the money (thankfully, the asshole was kicked out of my life sooner). If the offers were made before she started asking for money to leave, then I could totally understand her saying no.
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trace has been caught co-opting other people's stories before, and this sounds just like something that happened to a player at box a year ago.
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(Anonymous) 2015-11-20 06:07 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
(Anonymous) 2015-11-20 04:36 pm (UTC)(link)da
(Anonymous) 2015-11-21 12:55 am (UTC)(link)Re: da
(Anonymous) 2015-11-21 04:58 am (UTC)(link)presumably trace is actually human with actual human bonds and still gives a shit
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(Anonymous) 2015-11-21 06:45 am (UTC)(link)when you got family members that treat you like shit and would rather blame you for the nutjob being a nutjob instead of actually helping you get to safety (trace's grandmother refused to give her money to help her get away to somewhere safer), you don't need fucking enemies.
just because they are "family" doesn't mean shit. "family" will stab you in the back and leave you for dead just as easily as any stranger. this isn't always the case, i know. there are families that DO have strong bonds but it's just plain wrong to think all of them are like that, anon.
ddda
(Anonymous) 2015-11-21 08:53 am (UTC)(link)Re: dda
(Anonymous) 2015-11-21 10:29 pm (UTC)(link)in this case according to trace's story, her gran was still blaming her for getting into a bad situation, up until boyfriend actually threatened said old lady and then she got with the program