uh, buddy, your friend is the only one responsible for her flaking. if she's "too nice" to tell people she's not into a thread anymore, that is 1000% her problem, and her fault
Threads are a two way street though. The other side is welcome to drop it as well. It sounds like both sides are too "nice" to drop, or else don't want to be the one to drop and be considered the flake.
Or the people on the other end not wanting to drop the thread are still into it and have no reason to think the other person isn't because they're not using their adult words and telling them.
We KNOW one side of the equation isn't being honest. We don't know jack shit about the other side except that they're not dropping threads. We also know OP is an idiot for trying to blame their friend's behavior on other people. Why don't we stick with what we know and not project onto the people we know nothing about.
You do realize this is DWRPers we're talking about right? Most people are afraid to drop threads and keep things going long past a natural conclusion because they don't want to be seen as a flake who drops threads. Plenty of people also tag stuff even if they no longer are into it because they can't be bothered to communicate.
All I'm stating is a fact that both people have the option to drop a thread and it takes two people to have a thread to start with. OP does have a point that often people do enable flakes to keep being flakes by accepting their excuses and rewarding that behavior by continuing to plot with them. Of course part of that is DWRP culture where we can't tell someone that maybe they should cut back or learn to manage their time better RL>RP is meant to be more a reason to drop with no hard feelings or go on hiatus as needed, not an excuse to overextend yourself beyond what you have time for.
I sure wish I could run into these "most people" who are afraid to drop threads, when in my experience, "most people" in this hobby are flaky as fuck and have the attention spans of goldfish.
Flakes are responsible for their own behavior. If someone is tired of a thread and keeps threading, they are the only one responsible for their own behavior. No one makes them do anything. Why are you so desperate to insist that other people are to blame for other people's shitty behavior, unless you're one of the people who can't take responsibility for yourself and your poor decisions?
I mean...I did say half the problem, because I think that my friend is absolutely at fault for taking on more than she should, but I also think that her other friends who enable her to do so should like cut that shit out, know what I'm saying?
no, your friend is the entire problem. if she wants to drop old threads to make room for new ones, the onus is entirely on her to do so, not on other people to read her mind and drop her threads for her.
it's like talking to a fucking kindergartner. where is the disconnect in a grown ass adult's brain that they could ever think other people are responsible for someone else's behavior or decisions?
unless the person in question is so mentally disabled that they literally can't be responsible, but if that were the case they would also be incapable of roleplaying decently at all.
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Re: Legitimate Flake Experiences?
(Anonymous) 2016-08-04 10:26 pm (UTC)(link)+1000
(Anonymous) 2016-08-04 11:46 pm (UTC)(link)Re: +1000
(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 02:40 am (UTC)(link)Re: +1000
(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 04:04 am (UTC)(link)We KNOW one side of the equation isn't being honest. We don't know jack shit about the other side except that they're not dropping threads. We also know OP is an idiot for trying to blame their friend's behavior on other people. Why don't we stick with what we know and not project onto the people we know nothing about.
Re: +1000
(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 08:49 am (UTC)(link)All I'm stating is a fact that both people have the option to drop a thread and it takes two people to have a thread to start with. OP does have a point that often people do enable flakes to keep being flakes by accepting their excuses and rewarding that behavior by continuing to plot with them. Of course part of that is DWRP culture where we can't tell someone that maybe they should cut back or learn to manage their time better RL>RP is meant to be more a reason to drop with no hard feelings or go on hiatus as needed, not an excuse to overextend yourself beyond what you have time for.
Re: +1000
(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 12:46 pm (UTC)(link)Flakes are responsible for their own behavior. If someone is tired of a thread and keeps threading, they are the only one responsible for their own behavior. No one makes them do anything. Why are you so desperate to insist that other people are to blame for other people's shitty behavior, unless you're one of the people who can't take responsibility for yourself and your poor decisions?
op
(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 06:00 pm (UTC)(link)Re: op
(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 06:49 pm (UTC)(link)+1
(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 07:04 pm (UTC)(link)unless the person in question is so mentally disabled that they literally can't be responsible, but if that were the case they would also be incapable of roleplaying decently at all.