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I'm talking to you, person on my timeline who likes to warn for self harm and then immediately start going on about about it right in sight of the damn warning. Knock that shit off. Why fucking warn at all if you're just going to give us an eyeball full of it?
what the hell is wrong with you that you need a content warning for someone counting calories? this is some tumblr level shit right here. grow the hell up
i don't really agree with this over pc shit of having to trigger warn for everything that might offend someone at all times. if you're recovering from an ed and something like a calorie counter is going to trigger you, then maybe you're not ready to be online. don't expect the world to cater to isolated things like that. i'm not saying it's not hard, but it's the same as being a recovering alcoholic/drug user. you don't get to call 'triggered' just because someone posted a top level about going out and getting smashed at a party or posting a picture of themselves with a glass of wine.
that's your shit. if it bothers you so much in skimming passage, you are not ready to be interacting with people and you don't get to dictate how much others share of their lives with the general public. i'm honestly not trying to be bitchy, even though i do recognize it's coming off that way. find someone to vent to. block or unfollow the person that you can't handle seeing. but don't expect anyone to actually feel the same way you do about someone doing basic self maintenance and having a health regime and probably being proud of it.
I'm the anon they replied to and actually I almost put "in before baw my ed" at the end of my first comment
nutrition information is part of life and the world. it's not offensive, it's not assaulting you. it's just information that people use to make decisions about what/how they consume, which is a perfectly ordinary thing for people to talk about
there's a difference between recovering from an ed and being a fucking tumblrite baby who expects the scope of things that exist in the world to be filtered for you like you're still at your mommy's tit and she's sheltering you from every thing you could see that might give you a rough time
the problem is not someone insufficiently trigger warning for talking about their diet and calorie intake. the problem is people claiming that it's reasonable or rational to treat that as something which needs to be warned for in the first place
it's more being considerate and warning for like the most basic things that might trigger someone; i'm recovering ed so i always make sure to warn for it. but, i can also understand why someone wouldn't think of that. at the end of the day, it's your own responsibility to either unfollow like op did or ask them specifically for a warning.
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let's take this as an example. as someone who used to self harm and still occasionally struggles with it, i know it's an issue that can affect others. i own that and recognize that as a thing, and for those out there like myself, i will take that into consideration when talking about it or even mentioning it in passing.
same with a broader experience that i feel more people have to deal with, like sexual assault. i will also warn for that as i know it can be legitimately triggering for some people. but that's me as someone that has experienced it and thinks of it. it's part of my day to day. it's part of my life. but that said, if and when (and this has happened and more often than i might otherwise have thought before it became my issue), loads of people post things without warning about accidents they've had or even just showing a back covered in scratch marks from 'good sex'. or they might show a hand covered in claw marks from having to give their cat a bath. something they personally don't think of as having any kind of relation to something that might have an adverse affect on others.
i'm not going to flip out on them and start calling them insensitive or intentionally triggery. they don't think something simple like that (for them) is going to have a bad affect for someone else. it's on me to recognize the context of it and deal with it on my own.
now, more people are likely to toss out a heads up for graphic sexual content or abusive sex or things of that subject just because sex itself is something that most people experience (please don't turn this into an asexual discussion). but those same people that are making an effort to be considerate of others might not attribute everything they do to someone else's affliction or recovery. like posting a glass of wine, talking about their diet or workout regime, mentioning they got clawed to death, or anything else that is something that affects a more isolated group of people.
recovery is hard and i really do understand that. but i think part of recovery that a lot of people gloss over or choose to ignore is to take responsibility for what you see and do. there are obviously people that are just jerks and will put up disgusting stuff to be an asshole, but for the most part, someone talking about themselves/their life/what they're doing aren't doing it to piss someone off or cause someone stress. they just want to have a conversation or share something about themselves. so people with disorders like self harm or recovering eds need to just learn a little more chill about that stuff. take more personal responsibility over it. does it offend you? trigger you? yes? okay, then stop looking. maybe remove them from your follow list. if you're worried you're going to miss game stuff, use your words and tell them that for your own reasons you won't be following them (or go into detail if you feel you have to) and ask if they'll ping you into game discussions or fandom things, or whatever things they post that you actually enjoy reading.
i know this got tldr, but it just really bugs me, even as a recovering (x) that people will get so bent out of shape and play the blame game over being triggered because of someone else's very innocent and non-related comment. it just makes me feel like people are looking to be offended sometimes. and the very loud types of these people are always the first ones to mention very loudly and publicly about what they are and how triggered they are and very vivid details about what they went through and shouldn't you feel sorry for them.
90% of the time, these 'triggered' rants are not warned for and are in public places. the hypocrisy chokes.
dude you're the one who needs to chill about this, possibly
this thread was not a commentary on pc culture or whatever you're making it, it's a pet peeve thread going "it's annoying when someone is clearly trying to be polite and warn for shit and is then a total idiot who doesn't do the warning effectively"
no one was suggesting banning offenders from the internet, someone said "i didn't like that they did that and i unfollowed them"
i can't believe this thread has turned into a bunch of children shrieking about how they're being oppressed by other peoples' triggers and the meanie pc police should just unfollow people when "i unfollowed that person" was literally the comment that prompted this reaction
Exactly this. I don't care about all this whining about trigger warnings in general. I care that some people who are on board with warnings are too dense to make their warnings at all useful.
Guess it gave the wank-starved something to do, tho.
idgaf if you have an ed or are recovering from one. you are wrong to try and reframe calorie counts as "a basic thing that might trigger someone"
they are a basic thing that SHOULD NOT trigger someone. functional, reasonably well-adjusted adults do not get triggered by people talking about how much food they eat in a day and, here's the key point, no one should be trying to restructure the world to cater to dysfunctional poorly-adjusted adult-children, not on their social media, not in their college classes, not in their tv/movie entertainment. NOWHERE
you are nothing but a self-important child if you think that human social life should restrict itself to conform to your particular finicky personal wants and whims. you need to learn to cope with human social interaction in the world, not expect human social interaction to turn itself into a sheltered bubble for you
this is not a matter of being "considerate" of you. it's a matter of you being an entitled, self centered toddler who needs to recalibrate your damn perspective
super cool to know being anorexic makes me a self-centered toddler
i know i'm not a reasonably well-adjusted adult. fucking none of us are. that's why we all use trigger warnings, because we're not all inconsiderate edgelords like you.
it's kind of unreasonably melodramatic to call someone an "inconsiderate edgelord" for forgetting to or just not thinking to put a "cw" in front of their own diet tracking or food talk tho
do you ever go outside into the real world beyond a tumblr dashboard
fuck that "triggered by the most basic things" bullshit and grow up. i knew someone once who tried to dick out of threads with cgi characters because they were t-t-t-t-triggered!!!!! by video games.
if something as simple as a calorie count causes someone to have dramatic flashbacks and panic attacks, they need to not be on the internet.
what the fuck are you on about? they didn't flip their shit or try to dictate anything to the person on their timeline. they unfollowed them. that's exactly what everyone recommends you do to curate your own internet experience if you don't like something, all the time. it's literally what you recommend in this rant.
it's polite to warn, but there's no law that says you have to. there's no law that says people have to deal with you if you don't and they don't like that either. just like every other social courtesy thing on the face of the earth
[content warning: self harm] ((discussion of self harm specifics in the top level plurk right alongside the warning and not under the cut))
is not of the same caliber as
[diet plurk] (("today I ate xxx calories for breakfast, lunch, and dinner for a total of xxxx, but I cheated a little and also had this unhealthy food"))
it doesn't matter whether someone has an ed or not. talking about those two things like they are on the same level socially is oblivious and obtuse as all hell
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 12:39 am (UTC)(link)I'm talking to you, person on my timeline who likes to warn for self harm and then immediately start going on about about it right in sight of the damn warning. Knock that shit off. Why fucking warn at all if you're just going to give us an eyeball full of it?
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 11:43 am (UTC)(link)unfollowed her ass.
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 12:43 pm (UTC)(link)that's your shit. if it bothers you so much in skimming passage, you are not ready to be interacting with people and you don't get to dictate how much others share of their lives with the general public. i'm honestly not trying to be bitchy, even though i do recognize it's coming off that way. find someone to vent to. block or unfollow the person that you can't handle seeing. but don't expect anyone to actually feel the same way you do about someone doing basic self maintenance and having a health regime and probably being proud of it.
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 01:14 pm (UTC)(link)I'm the anon they replied to and actually I almost put "in before baw my ed" at the end of my first comment
nutrition information is part of life and the world. it's not offensive, it's not assaulting you. it's just information that people use to make decisions about what/how they consume, which is a perfectly ordinary thing for people to talk about
there's a difference between recovering from an ed and being a fucking tumblrite baby who expects the scope of things that exist in the world to be filtered for you like you're still at your mommy's tit and she's sheltering you from every thing you could see that might give you a rough time
the problem is not someone insufficiently trigger warning for talking about their diet and calorie intake. the problem is people claiming that it's reasonable or rational to treat that as something which needs to be warned for in the first place
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 01:38 pm (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) content warning: self harm | sexual assault
(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 01:56 pm (UTC)(link)same with a broader experience that i feel more people have to deal with, like sexual assault. i will also warn for that as i know it can be legitimately triggering for some people. but that's me as someone that has experienced it and thinks of it. it's part of my day to day. it's part of my life. but that said, if and when (and this has happened and more often than i might otherwise have thought before it became my issue), loads of people post things without warning about accidents they've had or even just showing a back covered in scratch marks from 'good sex'. or they might show a hand covered in claw marks from having to give their cat a bath. something they personally don't think of as having any kind of relation to something that might have an adverse affect on others.
i'm not going to flip out on them and start calling them insensitive or intentionally triggery. they don't think something simple like that (for them) is going to have a bad affect for someone else. it's on me to recognize the context of it and deal with it on my own.
now, more people are likely to toss out a heads up for graphic sexual content or abusive sex or things of that subject just because sex itself is something that most people experience (please don't turn this into an asexual discussion). but those same people that are making an effort to be considerate of others might not attribute everything they do to someone else's affliction or recovery. like posting a glass of wine, talking about their diet or workout regime, mentioning they got clawed to death, or anything else that is something that affects a more isolated group of people.
recovery is hard and i really do understand that. but i think part of recovery that a lot of people gloss over or choose to ignore is to take responsibility for what you see and do. there are obviously people that are just jerks and will put up disgusting stuff to be an asshole, but for the most part, someone talking about themselves/their life/what they're doing aren't doing it to piss someone off or cause someone stress. they just want to have a conversation or share something about themselves. so people with disorders like self harm or recovering eds need to just learn a little more chill about that stuff. take more personal responsibility over it. does it offend you? trigger you? yes? okay, then stop looking. maybe remove them from your follow list. if you're worried you're going to miss game stuff, use your words and tell them that for your own reasons you won't be following them (or go into detail if you feel you have to) and ask if they'll ping you into game discussions or fandom things, or whatever things they post that you actually enjoy reading.
i know this got tldr, but it just really bugs me, even as a recovering (x) that people will get so bent out of shape and play the blame game over being triggered because of someone else's very innocent and non-related comment. it just makes me feel like people are looking to be offended sometimes. and the very loud types of these people are always the first ones to mention very loudly and publicly about what they are and how triggered they are and very vivid details about what they went through and shouldn't you feel sorry for them.
90% of the time, these 'triggered' rants are not warned for and are in public places. the hypocrisy chokes.
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 02:06 pm (UTC)(link)this thread was not a commentary on pc culture or whatever you're making it, it's a pet peeve thread going "it's annoying when someone is clearly trying to be polite and warn for shit and is then a total idiot who doesn't do the warning effectively"
no one was suggesting banning offenders from the internet, someone said "i didn't like that they did that and i unfollowed them"
i can't believe this thread has turned into a bunch of children shrieking about how they're being oppressed by other peoples' triggers and the meanie pc police should just unfollow people when "i unfollowed that person" was literally the comment that prompted this reaction
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 03:25 pm (UTC)(link)Guess it gave the wank-starved something to do, tho.
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maybe I want to give the middle finger to ppl who expect warnings on everything from "I stubbed my toe" to "let me describe my lunch"
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 02:02 pm (UTC)(link)no, and you can fuck right off.
idgaf if you have an ed or are recovering from one. you are wrong to try and reframe calorie counts as "a basic thing that might trigger someone"
they are a basic thing that SHOULD NOT trigger someone. functional, reasonably well-adjusted adults do not get triggered by people talking about how much food they eat in a day and, here's the key point, no one should be trying to restructure the world to cater to dysfunctional poorly-adjusted adult-children, not on their social media, not in their college classes, not in their tv/movie entertainment. NOWHERE
you are nothing but a self-important child if you think that human social life should restrict itself to conform to your particular finicky personal wants and whims. you need to learn to cope with human social interaction in the world, not expect human social interaction to turn itself into a sheltered bubble for you
this is not a matter of being "considerate" of you. it's a matter of you being an entitled, self centered toddler who needs to recalibrate your damn perspective
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 04:56 pm (UTC)(link)i know i'm not a reasonably well-adjusted adult. fucking none of us are. that's why we all use trigger warnings, because we're not all inconsiderate edgelords like you.
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 04:59 pm (UTC)(link)Get therapy. Become well-adjusted. Stop expecting the world to cater to your disorders.
If matters to you, you'll find a way. If it doesn't, you'll find excuses to keep bitching on the internet.
>fucking none of us are
The projection is real.
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 11:48 pm (UTC)(link)little else is being requested of you than some basic small courtesy
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 05:06 pm (UTC)(link)do you ever go outside into the real world beyond a tumblr dashboard
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 05:17 pm (UTC)(link)just maybe
some people have no patience for your juvenile shit because they are reasonably well-adjusted adults
nah, totally impossible, right?
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-08 01:48 am (UTC)(link)if something as simple as a calorie count causes someone to have dramatic flashbacks and panic attacks, they need to not be on the internet.
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 01:56 pm (UTC)(link)it's polite to warn, but there's no law that says you have to. there's no law that says people have to deal with you if you don't and they don't like that either. just like every other social courtesy thing on the face of the earth
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 02:10 pm (UTC)(link)and maybe
they unfollowed the person who was aggravating those?
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(Anonymous) 2017-09-07 02:16 pm (UTC)(link)[content warning: self harm] ((discussion of self harm specifics in the top level plurk right alongside the warning and not under the cut))
is not of the same caliber as
[diet plurk] (("today I ate xxx calories for breakfast, lunch, and dinner for a total of xxxx, but I cheated a little and also had this unhealthy food"))
it doesn't matter whether someone has an ed or not. talking about those two things like they are on the same level socially is oblivious and obtuse as all hell
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