wankgate | 199: a gaggle of bumblewits

i'm not the op. i don't think it's creepy. i just think that it would be more socially comfortable for someone to ask before adding. there's a sort of 'if you don't add me back, you're a dick' mentality that makes people who can't handle confrontation or who are socially awkward feel that they have to, otherwise (insert impending doom here).

just because 'a lot of people' are okay being socially extendable, doesn't mean that everyone is. it takes very little to just shoot a pp or ask in a mutual's plurk that you and your not yet plurk friend are taking over with your plotting to just go 'oh, hey, do you mind if i add you so we can stop taking over (x)'s plurk?' they can say no. if someone asks you, you can say no. i can say no. but there's a reason i don't list my plurk as a contact on my game's taken list, and when i make a cr meme post, i ask for a head's up first or for it to be cr only. because i'm an adult and i'm controlling what part of my life i can. just acknowledge that you can actually do something instead of shoving all the responsibility on to the 'other person'. that's rude.

huh

> i'm such a social cripple that i'm scared people who i want nothing to do with anyway will hate me if i don't add them and i can't handle that
> "because i'm an adult and i'm controlling what part of my life i can"

dude, you seriously need to reexamine your way of being.

... did i say that not adding someone applied to me? i literally just said in that same blurb your eyes glazed over on that i can say no and i do. but some people feel pressured into adding when they don't want to.

do you feel personally called out for adding people without asking or something?

so you're here to speak on behalf of the social cripples who literally just can't not add someone, even though you can do so just fine.

yeah, that makes sense.

considering i've heard a few people on my timeline literally have panic attacks over random adds, sure. we'll go with that. it means that some people are capable of thinking outside their personal experience.

so again, stop trying to act like everything you do is right and that you're incapable of extending basic courtesy to people first. own your shit, anon.

sounds like the people on your timeline need to either nut up or get off social media

they could stand to use a thicker skin, yes. but think for five seconds, anon. you are literally getting snarky over someone mentioning that you could bother to just be a little more aware first. take an extra step. check first instead of assuming.

really?

i'm aware that plurk is a social media platform that is often used by rpers to stay in touch with each other and that it is common for them to add gamemates on sight

someone getting t-t-t-triggered by this is like flying into a pants-shitting panic because someone they don't know responded to their tag

people using the site in the way it was intended to be used, horrors

i'm aware that plurk is a social media platform that is often used by rpers to stay in touch with each other and that it is common for them to add gamemates on sight

since when? because that hasn't been the norm in any of the games i've played in unless the person posted their plurk in their ooc intro and invited people to add them. it's not common for people to just go through the player contact list and randomly add people without invitation or asking first.

i've always done this...

i would rather add everyone that will add me, talk and read through stuff, and get to know my gamemates. if our cr doesn't click or they are annoying i unfriend them. i would rather get to know everyone and then cut my timeline down rather than ignoring everyone from the start and potentially miss good cr?

lmao yeah it is. i've done it in most games i've been in and i haven't been the only one.

if your friends aren't just exaggerating for buttpats then they need professional help, not people like me tiptoeing around them and people like you enabling their behavior.

i'm sorry you see basic courtesy as ~tiptoeing. seriously. asking shouldn't be this big of a thing to fluster your ass this much. people get pissed and scream about flakes on here for people not replying to pms or tags as to why they're not tagging them. why wouldn't some people feel that turning down a friend request on plurk would invite that same sort of clucking?

lmao, you're talking about my ass being too flustered while literally whiteknighting people who have LITERAL ANXIETY ATTACKS over a freakin friend request.

those people are disconnected from reality and the social norms of the place they're in and their fear is unreasonable, and therefore is their own concern, not that of people around them. you don't get to just change an entire social norm and have everyone fall in line as you think they should because of an -- at this point, COMPLETELY HYPOTHETICAL, because i don't actually believe that anyone has had a literal panic attack over a plurk add and wasn't either exaggerating or being exaggerated by you -- extremely small minority of people who really need mental health treatment that randos on plurk can't provide. the world isn't their therapy office.

a request to add someone is literally someone asking if it's okay or not to be on your timeline. you are suggesting that the social norm is to ASK TWICE to be on someone's timeline. that's just stupid.

frankly i believe people should ask 3 times

all you thinking otherwise are social rejects overstepping my definitely normal boundaries

then that's on them and they need to put on their big girl panties. am i supposed to make sure to tiptoe around every potential problem anyone might have (impossible) lest i make someone ~super uncomfy~? no. i'm not here to be their mommy.

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