Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:00 pm (UTC)(link)
nobody owes you shit

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ThJcHjCI9j4

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:01 pm (UTC)(link)
how many times do i have to teach you this lesson, old man

Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:05 pm (UTC)(link)
i can but honestly there's a risk-reward calculation happening in my head

Some of you are socially maladjusted babies that I accidentally tagged once and now I want to remove you from my plurk because I'm tired of your e-begging and funko pop collections that it's too much hassle to have a conversation you know will go south because honestly what good does it do to be like "you act in a way I prefer not to interact with" do for anyone

Someone I have an invested ooc relationship with, sure, I'm willing to take on some more stakes and have that conversation

But like honestly the people I'm the most BEC with are people I just find grating. Why is it not their responsibility to just not have an annoying personality.

Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:05 pm (UTC)(link)
Amazing how there are dozens of other people on this site I haven't blocked because they know how to act like a normal human without me holding their hand through it

Re: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ThJcHjCI9j4

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:06 pm (UTC)(link)
it's bait to say I don't have time to teach adult humans how to behave in ways that aren't annoying????

Re: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ThJcHjCI9j4

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:07 pm (UTC)(link)
is that the comment i responded to

Re: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ThJcHjCI9j4

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:08 pm (UTC)(link)
sorry I thought you were calling the one above it bait, not the one you directly responded to

Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:09 pm (UTC)(link)
imagine being wired differently than anon

no way

Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:12 pm (UTC)(link)
Sounds like you are forward not everyone is

Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:13 pm (UTC)(link)
imagine thinking your behavior is other people's responsibility to deal with instead of just taking one literal millisecond to self reflect

Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:14 pm (UTC)(link)
Different things sometimes odd things upset others and we can’t mind read

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:14 pm (UTC)(link)
i had an rp partner who unironically thought that it was her friends' jobs to call her out on her behavior instead of moderating herself and was somehow always shocked when she burnt through them faster than toilet paper

Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:20 pm (UTC)(link)
and?

if I have a vested interest in the relationship yeah sure work to amend it and work through that. I had a conflict with a friend that came up enough times and couldn't be reconciled we eventually decided to part ways. Other friends we've gotten through it.

but it's emotionally exhausting to have those types of conversations so strangers or random people in my game?? Let them live their life. It's not worth the risk or the effort.

ayrt

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:22 pm (UTC)(link)
tbh i'm glad that worked for you but it doesn't sound like you were at the bitch eating crackers phase.

the whole point of that terms is that the person's very existence annoys you on an existential level. if you can just block, even while sharing a game space with them, and be chill about it? you were never at that level to begin with. but to be perfectly clear; that's a good thing.

Re: ayrt

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:25 pm (UTC)(link)
why are we gatekeeping what bec means

Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:26 pm (UTC)(link)
Then understand if a button is pushed 9 times out of 10 its accidental

ayrt

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:27 pm (UTC)(link)
knowing someone doesn't give me an obligation to play their internet therapist and tell them when they're grudgewanking.

tbh, some of these people i just wound up blocking, in the end. others eventually seemed to get over it.

Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:28 pm (UTC)(link)
alternatively: realize that this is a light hobby and it isn't anon's job to make themselves accessible to everyone if they don't want to

not everyone has the energy, time, or the investment to navigate the emotional labor involved in this kind of mediating and not one single person is entitled to it from them

do what normal, well-adjusted people do when someone doesn't want to be friends: shrug and move on with life, it's not that deep

ayrt

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:28 pm (UTC)(link)
some folks are definitely that bad and basically refuse to admit it to themselves. in my own case, wound up either blocking or just quietly drifting away from those what sincerely could not let go of their grudges.

Re: ayrt

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:29 pm (UTC)(link)
anon, i'm gonna ask sincerely; what do you think the word "gatekeeping" means?

+1

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:30 pm (UTC)(link)
if we're friends that's one thing but if you're some random asshole who keeps interrupting me in mutuals' plurks or talking constant shit in the game discord about something I enjoy why would I go out of my way to inform you that you're annoying the fuck out of me instead of just blocking you

GENSHIN IMPACT

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:31 pm (UTC)(link)
I hate Ayato already and he's not even out yet.

Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:33 pm (UTC)(link)
buddy if you are pushing the same button over and over again 10 times and getting blocked for it you might need to do some introspection

Re: ddda

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:34 pm (UTC)(link)
"nothing is ever my fault!"

(frozen comment)

(Anonymous) 2022-03-29 08:38 pm (UTC)(link)
if you're unable to empathize with someone who threw hands at a guy who openly insult his loved ones about personal struggles they have had actual depression over, you should probably not have opinions about this.