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Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

It's pretty normal to be in a friend's plurk, go "who's that? oh, it's the [character] player in my game, they seem cool, I should add them" and then do so.

I agree with you up to the 'and then do so. Ask first. That's just common courtesy. "Oh, hey. You play [character]? I play [character] in [game]. Would you be okay with me adding you?"

Not that hard, and then they know who's adding them. Otherwise, it's just some supposed rando and not everyone's okay with that.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

most people have who they play on their plurk profiles. are you such a baby you can't click a name to check if you know this person?

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

Though please pm or pp them, don't do it in your mutuas plurk

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

you're a tiny baby

[(Anonymous)]

you guys are so fucking weird. most people have their plurk listed as their contact in the games they're in, and have their characters listed on their plurk profile, and no one goes through the list of people on the game contact and pps every one to ask for permission to add them. the vast majority of people use plurk as an ooc plotting method, not a diary. if you don't want people adding you without asking, say so on your profile, otherwise suck it up and reject the people who try.

[(Anonymous)]

and the people that don't shouldn't just be okay with adding randos that saw them in a mutual's plurk without a head's up. i don't have my plurk added on the game's taken list. i specify whenever i list it that i prefer for cr to add me only, not to just add because you're joining a game. i have 'give me a head's up' in my profile. i am being proactive. not my fault some people choose to ignore everything and just send an add, then get butthurt when i don't add them.

[(Anonymous)]

this is why ooc communities need to make a comeback. people are so weird about plurk. like, sorry you think people are trying to stalk your personal locked-down hugbox, but the truth is they're just trying to make some new cr and do some game plotting because that's the dwrp go-to now.

nayrt

[(Anonymous)]

i personally don't list my plurk right now because it's full of rl stuff that i don't think new gamemates would really like to see; so i'm hoping PMs and discord suffice until i feel more comfortable with listing my plurk again

da

[(Anonymous)]

tbh i had an open friending policy until people started coming here to bitch about how i behave in my plurk so yeah i get why people are more selective about who they add now.

it wasn't anything wank worthy it was like i talk too much. which is a fine gripe to have but maybe defriend and move on, don't stick around and whine like children behind someone's back as if the person's doing anything harmful.

this obligation to keep people on plurk in order to cultivate cr on dwrp because that's where everyone does their plotting is just clique fodder. people don't all use plurk the same way which wouldn't be a problem if it wasn't a sense of needing to be open to the entire game we're in to get a decent shot at cr.

[(Anonymous)]

or you could... pm someone if you'd like to plot with them. imagine that.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

if you're one of the weirdos who isn't ok with that then it's on you to say as much

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

and when i do and people still add me? there are clumsy socially awkward people out there who just friend everyone they see. a way to not be a clumsy socially awkward person is to ask first.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

my dude, it is not clumsy or socially awkward to add people from a game you're in that you don't have cr with. the social norm in this hobby IS to add people when you share a game, even when you don't have cr yet, because that's how people plan a lot of cr. what is socially awkward is freaking out about it and calling it "creepy" like someone is hunting down your super secret kink tumblr or some shit and not just spotting a fellow player in a mutual's plurk.

if you want to go against the norm, reject the request. i know that's a mind blowing suggestion.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

i'm not the op. i don't think it's creepy. i just think that it would be more socially comfortable for someone to ask before adding. there's a sort of 'if you don't add me back, you're a dick' mentality that makes people who can't handle confrontation or who are socially awkward feel that they have to, otherwise (insert impending doom here).

just because 'a lot of people' are okay being socially extendable, doesn't mean that everyone is. it takes very little to just shoot a pp or ask in a mutual's plurk that you and your not yet plurk friend are taking over with your plotting to just go 'oh, hey, do you mind if i add you so we can stop taking over (x)'s plurk?' they can say no. if someone asks you, you can say no. i can say no. but there's a reason i don't list my plurk as a contact on my game's taken list, and when i make a cr meme post, i ask for a head's up first or for it to be cr only. because i'm an adult and i'm controlling what part of my life i can. just acknowledge that you can actually do something instead of shoving all the responsibility on to the 'other person'. that's rude.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

huh

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

> i'm such a social cripple that i'm scared people who i want nothing to do with anyway will hate me if i don't add them and i can't handle that
> "because i'm an adult and i'm controlling what part of my life i can"

dude, you seriously need to reexamine your way of being.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

... did i say that not adding someone applied to me? i literally just said in that same blurb your eyes glazed over on that i can say no and i do. but some people feel pressured into adding when they don't want to.

do you feel personally called out for adding people without asking or something?

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

so you're here to speak on behalf of the social cripples who literally just can't not add someone, even though you can do so just fine.

yeah, that makes sense.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

considering i've heard a few people on my timeline literally have panic attacks over random adds, sure. we'll go with that. it means that some people are capable of thinking outside their personal experience.

so again, stop trying to act like everything you do is right and that you're incapable of extending basic courtesy to people first. own your shit, anon.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

sounds like the people on your timeline need to either nut up or get off social media

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

if your friends aren't just exaggerating for buttpats then they need professional help, not people like me tiptoeing around them and people like you enabling their behavior.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

then that's on them and they need to put on their big girl panties. am i supposed to make sure to tiptoe around every potential problem anyone might have (impossible) lest i make someone ~super uncomfy~? no. i'm not here to be their mommy.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

i have it right there in my profile. people do it anyway.

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

so
deny
them

this is not that fucking complicated

Re: PLURK PET PEEVES

[(Anonymous)]

dude its just plurk