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245: Tone Death Rapture: Championship Edition : Tournament Edition

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Me and another player were playing out a CR dynamic that was ICly fraught and uncomfortable, but that I was loving OOC. The other player was proactive about tagging my posts, plotted actively with me on plurk, and reached out to be several times unsolicited to tell me how much she loved what we were doing and to thank me for playing it out with her.

While all this was still going on, with no changes in the other player's OOC behavior, two of her good friends pulled me into a private plurk and informed me the other player was actually very uncomfortable with the dynamic OOC but didn't know how to tell me themselves. The friends were very hostile and it was clear that they saw me as pushy and creepy for playing this dynamic with their friend. I was informed that I should have taken the other character's IC discomfort as a hint and backed off from the CR. When I pointed out that all OOC communication had been friendly and enthusiastic, I was told that didn't matter, because some people only feel comfortable expressing discomfort indirectly and I should have recognized and prepared for that. I showed them a plotting plurk from literally just the week before where the other player had come to me of their own volition to suggest more things we could do with our characters and their weird dynamic. I was again told that didn't matter, and the other player was intimidated by me and was just trying to keep me happy.

I tried to reach out to my CR partner about this only to find they'd blocked me on plurk and DW. So I just dropped our shared game without another word to them or their friends, because what else could I do?

I still love the idea of negative CR, but I refuse to play it out now except in PSLs with trusted longterm friends, because every time things start to look negative or complicated I secondguess myself and wonder if I'm going to be seen as a creepy, steamrolling bad guy again if I go through with it. I know refusing negative CR makes me look like a tittybaby but I don't care, this experience was a nightmare and I'll do whatever I can to keep it from happening again.

knowing how some people act in this hobby, i'll bet a hundred dollars those "friends" were the ones that were uncomfortable and convinced your rp partner to drop you with similar lies and manipulation.

still, sorry that happened to you, anon.

for what it's worth i also tell people i don't want to play out negative cr because ime it's always more drama than it's worth and i've never had a problem with it.

How is dwrp even alive when so many people just block others over the most minor of apparent “infractions” without any real communication?

something a lot like this happened to me except the other player didn't block, they held me as the sole accountable person for their discomfort for years about it and told me i had to take responsibility for their muse being Permanently Traumatized now. the kicker is they initiated every single part of that cr

It's a good thing they blocked, op. it means you got out of all that shit

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